Trust is the very thing that everybody in this world desires, or at least should desire from one another. Who wants to have a friendship or relationship without trust? Nobody does. Without trust, there is no friendship, and without friendship, there is no love. I believe that trust is an even greater compliment than to be loved! I believe George Macdonald said it best when he stated:
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” When I read this quote for the first time, I thought to myself, “Wow that is so true. How can you be loved if you are not trusted first?”
It is a special thing to be trusted by someone. To be told you are trusted is an even greater feeling, but you should never take advantage of that trust. Taking advantage of somebody’s trust in you is never a good thing and will only lead to distrust. If somebody took advantage of my trust, I would be very skeptical of them the next time they needed me to do something for them or asked something of me. Trust should be valued highly and seen as a true bond between two friends or mates. It should be thought of like the glue in the relationship.
I think of myself as a very trusting person. I believe that I have a very strong judge of character when it comes to meeting somebody for the first time. When I first look at somebody I can sort of tell how their personality is or how easy they might be to talk to. Just by looking at the way they sit or stand, talk, and listen, I will be able to tell if I will get along with that person well.
This also goes for trusting somebody. Maybe I tend to trust people a little too much when I first meet someone but that is just the way I am. Though I do not fully trust them, I believe I can trust them to help me with something minor I ask of them or tell them. I usually have no problem trusting somebody unless I can tell there will be a problem. If they break my trust in them, it will take a lot to re-gain that trust back if they can at all.
Having somebody to trust is a wonderful feeling. Knowing that you have somebody to talk to about anything you might have going on in your life is great. The feeling of being trusted might possibly be one of the best feelings you will ever know. It is great when you can help somebody when you are trusted just by having a talk with them about something they need help with or need advice on.
If you do not know of anybody you truly trust, then I believe that you should find someone and build that friendship with a glue called to trust and maybe you will help that person and even yourself in ways you’ve never known.
Trust, is a belief in responsibility, truth, or ability of someone or something; it is also an acceptance in the truth even without evidence or investigation; and a state of being responsible for someone or something (Oxford Dictionary, 2017). Nowadays, trust is becoming more important as we live in a time that is full of uncertainty.
However, trust in government and business has a breakdown in the result of the global financial crisis and the collapse of high profile banks, with the failure of government rescue plans (Hope-Hailey et al, 2012). The CIPD Megatrends report published in 2013 in the UK claimed ‘ Trust in many organizations is weak.
In short, direct reciprocity is “fair but weak”; but indirect is “strong but unfair”(Conell and Mannision, 2017), as if a seller on eBay refuse to lower the price in trader’s favor, a trader could “punish” the seller by giving negative feedback, and this feedback can be seen publicly for other buyers before they engage biding (Bolton and Ockenfels).
Why trust is important Robinson (1996) claimed trust is an important factor affecting employee’s behavior because trust in employer influence employee’s belief in the likelihood of employer’s future actions will be beneficial, agreeable, and not harmful to employee’s own interest (Alfes, Shantz, and Truss).
Additionally, the psychological contract that focuses on the exchange of perceived promises and commitments has been increasingly in use in studying employment relationships. Herroit and Pemberton (1997) defined the psychological contract as the perceptions of both organization and the individual relationship of the mutual promises and obligations implied in the relationship.
Not only does the management of psychological contract face issues of the way to conceptualize and manage employment relation, but it also influences organizational culture and climate (Guest and Conway, 2002), as Guest (1998) suggested organizational culture and climate of high involvement and partnership…
Living in the world these days is really hard because people are no longer honest with each other. Being dishonest always causes problems that can lead to someone getting offended. It seems that in everyday life there is something someone can always lie about. In my opinion, I think lying is wrong and that people should always tell the truth because everyone you come into contact with will trust you. If you do lie, the truth will eventually come out, and if you do not lie you will have a clean conscious.
Lying does not do you or anyone else any good; it does not resolve anything. Perhaps at first if you are a good liar it will resolve some problems, but eventually, the truth will come out.
When the truth does come out, situations worsen and problems arise. People sometimes get emotionally and even physically hurt. For example, if a couple breaks up, they may lose the great friendship they once had.
People come out to confess about something they had been lying about. Then someone ends up getting hurt and acting impulsively. Nothing is worth losing over a lie. The most important reason people should always tell the truth is so that they can have a clean conscious. If you lie, eventually, it is going to get to your consciousness.
You will be thinking about the lie and about getting caught. Having a clean conscious is the best thing one can have. The most important place in which we show honesty is in friendships. Friends are the most important thing to us and we need honesty because we need loyal friends to keep us sane, they would be upset if they found out the truth and they wouldn’t trust us. Honesty is also important because honesty is the key foundation in trust, and most relationships are built on trust
Our friends are what keeps us happy, sane, and honest. It shows that people, who vent their personal issues with a trusted companion, are ultimately happier in life. Without honesty, we would be humiliated when we discover all we are unconfident with others knowing is publicized.
If our friends weren’t honest we would trust no one. Knowing the people we once called a friend or “best friend forever” was dishonest or untrustworthy we would question whether or not our judgment of a person was good or not. Just that one problem would set off so many things and make us feel unsatisfied with ourselves. Also as a person who was the victim of a dishonest relationship with someone and up having trust issues in the future with others.
Not only would dishonesty cause internal conflicts but external conflicts with others who were originally not involved in the problem. In schools today when something happens word spreads and many other people cause problems that are both not wanted and necessary. Another issue that would arise would be losing friendships and trust within that person. When you lose trust with that person it could take a lifetime to gain that trust back with that individual.
I think that honesty is important because you trust and respect that person with all your love and protection. In order to have somebody’s trust, you have to know them for a long time in order to tell them anything. Also, your other half should trust u with anything they will like u to know about themselves. People should trust their other half and they don’t that trust and respect that u had is going to waste.
Honesty is a very important thing to have in a friendship or u will end up being hurt like some people in this world. Honesty in our daily life should also be one of our most important values. Dishonesty in can be found in every corner of our lives. It can be found in our government, our companies, and even our families. Maintaining honest aspects of our lives is difficult in a world that is full of corruption, lies, and secrets. Because of these traits those who are an honest standout.
Your honest behavior may inspire others to stand up with you or cause others to try and look down on you for your honesty. The only person that you have control of their honesty and integrity is you. There are different kinds of trust and these are trust in family, trust in someone special, and trust in friends.
Our trust in the family is of big importance because we have lived with them from the day we were born until we mature. Most of our secrets during our childhood are known by our family and we have deep trust in them because they took care of us. We have grown attached to them so they are the first to know our secrets most of the time. They know when we are acting strange because they have known us since our childhood. We let them know almost everything about us.
They are the ones we go back to when we do not have anywhere to go. Trust can come in many forms, for example, if all the countries in the world didn’t trust there probably wouldn’t be a world to live in at all. Even something as simple as getting on an airplane has to do with trust.
You are trusting that the plane was made correctly and that the pilot is well trained and is going to get you where you want to be as safe as possible. Another example is going to a restaurant and trusting that the cook has looked at the food and has made sure that the food is well cooked and not rotten or moldy and that he has cooked it properly so you won’t get sick or get hurt or something like that.
Also just getting in the car with someone knowing that they will be as safe as possible and won’t do anything stupid to hurt you are get someone one killed. Let me give you my definition of the word trust.
Trust to me is knowing in whatever circumstance you are in you can count on whatever person to be there for you and not do things to you to make you hurt or lie to you they are always there for you no matter what. Trust is very important to have but it is also very important to keep.
If you lose it it’s one of the hardest things to gain back. For example, if you lie to someone who trusts you then they have no reason to trust you with anything in the world. To gain it back you have to prove to them that you are a trustworthy person. You have to show them that they deserve your trust
Trust is also needed in school. Trust is need with your parents and teachers when it comes to school. Your parents have to trust you every day as they go out to work and send you to school to behave and do all your work. They don’t have time to be at work worrying about if there is disrupting a class or doing their work. They should be able to go to work and be at ease. It’s hard enough working a job anyways. Your teachers have to trust you too.
They have to be able to know that you won’t cheat on a test or that you will do your homework before you get to class and not copy someone else’s work. They have to know that when a substitute covers a class and they leave work that it will be done. For example, if a teacher decides to go over the homework, she should be able to trust that no one will copy the questions and try to hand it in as their homework. All Trust is an important thing in all aspects of life. I encourage you to build trust with those around you so you can have a better life.
What exactly is trust? It could be a feeling… Or a cause and effect kind of thing. Of course, one cannot say that it itself does not exist. Because it can be gained and lost, and it is seen in the actions of us humans as we live our lives. And yet… no one can really grasp the concept of trust. I suppose I will just start out with what I view as trust and my experiences with it. Perhaps that will lead me to an explanation. I may even have a sudden great realization, just by reviewing and analyzing my past! Oh, the joy! I cannot wait! Let me begin.
I have not had the best experience with trust. It has been an excruciatingly painful and difficult road for me, not to mention a confusing one. I have been turned on, backstabbed, kicked while on the ground, you name it. People seem to always break their trust with me. They gain it and then do something to lose it all.
Now when I was younger (meaning up until about six or so months ago) It did not take much for me to trust someone. If I became friends with someone, after some time, I felt like I could tell them my life story, and it would be safe with them. I learned about teenage humans in a hard way. Not many can really be trusted. From my middle school years, I would have many hurtful tests and learn lessons that would shape me into the untrusting and, fortunately much wiser person who writes this paper. High school would get no better. With crushes came emotional vulnerability. This would be one of my many downfalls. I was hurt the most in this way. I was taught to be a friendly, caring, and loving child. I made friends easily until middle school. I was teased more than ever, and because it was so unexpected, I was impacted significantly.
Expectation. I think that it has a lot to do with trust. The two seem to tie into each other a lot. Part of trust is having the expectation that someone will do right and be right towards you. It is why you feel safe around them. When you trust someone, you are more comfortable. When you don’t trust someone, you are more likely to keep your guard up, and I don’t necessarily mean physically.
I am a wall of the emotional guard. I am on constant alert. Because of the fact that I’ve been hurt so much in the past, I am a very untrusting person. I try my best not to drive people away. Some expect to be trusted, for they have earned it. Some just believe it comes with talking to them. In any case, I make sure that I am not hurt emotionally by things like this. Of course, I do allow people to gain and earn my trust. It is better than keeping everyone shut out. If I did, I might shoo away the really good people, and push back the people who care about me, in fear of being hurt and alone again, ultimately isolating myself anyway over time.
It is also better than just giving my trust out to people, and allowing them to have access and enter my inner person, so to speak, without some sign or knowledge of whether or not they can be trusted. I have noticed that many people have a tendency to use and take advantage of things like this, throwing that person away after they have gotten what they wanted or after they’ve gotten bored.
When trust Is broken
Many things play out In the category of broken trust. Several things can cause it to be lost or broken. Lies. Probably the most common. Suspicions of lies. Failure to uphold a promise. I’m not talking about material items. I don’t mean things like not showing up somewhere or doing a favor. Things can happen in life that cannot be changed, and it sometimes causes one to have to break a promise, because it is impossible to uphold after “life” happens. But there are things that shouldn’t be broken.
Things that shouldn’t have to be. A promise that can’t be broken due to outside circumstances. Like secrets, for example. There should be no reason, in my eyes, for a promise to be broken, unless someone is in danger, in which case only authorities should be told. In all other cases, there should be no reason for a secret to become any more than that; if it was supposed to stay as It was, then it should stay as what the name states, a promise.
Feelings and actions obviously play a large role in trust. I mean, trust, in the simplest form, is a feeling. An emotion. You trust a person not to turn on you suddenly, or change their ways for a selfish and or unimportant reason. If a person decided to break off a friendship with another in order to be in a more socially popular crowd, the trust could, and will more than likely be broken between those two people. As a result, pain comes along. And it’s more than the pain that surfaces too.
In the event that trust is lost, one may experience confusion, disorientation, and extreme sadness or anger. One may see a friend go from friend to enemy over the course of a day, and be left in the dark, not knowing what had happened. They would be confused, wondering what caused such a thing to happen.
I find that analyzing everything that happened helps me to regain my sanity (as I am quite emotionally and mentally unstable when this happens, and can get very irrational at times), as well as help me understand why the event happened, and help me make better decisions in the long run.
Wisdom. That is one of the only good things that come out of broken trust. When someone does something that hurts me, especially the ones closest to me, I no longer trust that person. I do not trust what they say, what they do, or anything else about them. I completely shield myself from any and everyone, just from that one person.
Fear. Fear keeps people from doing things that they want to do at times. I am fearful of many things, mostly of déjà vu. I don’t want to go through the same thing twice, where I give someone my trust and they throw it away, for then I have learned nothing. And so I analyze what I did wrong, and take that into consideration when in situations with other people. I allow people to gain my trust, and I occasionally test them, with tasks that happen to come up, to see if they are trustworthy. In time, I learn to trust all of my friends, though I always keep the benefit of the doubt, that anyone could change or turn at any given time for any reason, or no reason at all.
This proves to be quite unhealthy in terms of friendships, not to mention offensive to some of my comrades. But I simply cannot take the risk of getting hurt again because I was careless with my choice of friends. I do not trust anyone fully, and it is for that very reason of carelessness that I don’t. I have had painful experiences with broken trust. Each experience, once I analyzed it, allowed me to become wiser, and gain knowledge so that I don’t make the same mistakes again.
When I analyze, I look back at my thoughts. I analyze my past, looking at every detail, every conversation, every event, searching for signs that told me that something was going wrong. Searching for something that would lead me to an answer. Like a historian looking back at the American Revolution, I tend to see signs that something was not right, that either I or someone else was in the wrong, and sometimes I missed obvious signs, that showed our actions would inevitably lead to disaster.
But I, when in the midst of these situations, am as a person in the revolution. The people who lived during that time, couldn’t have seen the signs. They would have never guessed that they would have broken away from Britain.
They couldn’t see the chain of events were perfectly leading to a revolution and rebellion. But historians nowadays could see it clearly. It was obvious that a war would emerge. I could not see what I was doing, at the time I was doing it. Believe me, had I seen, I would have stopped myself. I would have slapped myself in the face, tied my arms, and taped my mouth so that I could prevent things from happening.
I sometimes wish that I could go back in time, and warn myself of horrible things to come. I wish I could have stopped myself from doing certain things, for I am still feeling the pain from some things I did not prevent.
I try my best to look for signs ahead of time so that I can stop myself from making terrible and painful mistakes. The mistakes I am talking about are ones I made in terms of trusting people I shouldn’t have. Nearly everyone has had, at some time or another, someone they trusted or cared for dearly, that they found, later on, could not be trusted. It is probably one of the most painful experiences to have with trust. One must be most careful when trusting people. Even the people closest to you, I have learned, can prove to be quite the opposite of what you thought.
Trust is not only an emotional act but also a logical one. As I read, it is “where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner.” If you trust someone to be a certain way and have past experiences to back it up, it is likely that your predictions will be correct.
If you know that a person has stolen in the past, and they were sitting next to you in class a few days ago, when you lost your wallet, a wise deduction can be made that maybe said person had a bit of a “hand slip”. If a person always helps you and has never broken a promise, you feel more comfortable around that person and are more than likely more fond of them than someone you do not trust as much.
A friend of mine, when I asked her what trust was in their opinion, said something that puts trust into a simple, yet deep metaphor. “Trust is like a glass ball.” She said that when one is close to another, that person gives them a glass ball to hold, and in turn, a glass ball from the other person is given to them. This glass ball represents trust. I see many things that could happen, given this visual.
The ball could be accidentally dropped, in which case, it may crack or a piece may chip off. But if done carelessly, or deliberately, one person “shatters the ball”, into many small pieces. In this way, the ball could represent a heart, being shattered into tiny shards, so much as they are looked upon as glitter on the ground, twinkling and glistening in what little light is left in its presence.
This may be a beautiful sight to someone who doesn’t know what that glitter used to be. But for the owner of this sparkling dust, it is a site of pain and disaster. The site where a mangled and broken heart lay. Though this glass ball and one’s heart may be put back together, it could never be looked upon in the same way again.
Like a mirror, though its purpose would be served, it could not serve this purpose in the same way. One would see a glass ball that has been broken, and put together again, shown by the cracks and small pieces missing from it. It takes a great feat to cover up a broken heart that has to be carried around every day. The broken symbolizes pain, and it is hard to hide the damage that has been done.
I have had to hide my emotions many times due to things like this. I had a shield, if you will, the shield being something like a smile or laugh, to cover up the wrenching pain in my chest and the burning in my stomach from some unfortunate event that had left me an emotional wreck. Having this shield is very exhausting, and when one is too tired to keep it up, everything breaks out. All the negative emotions that they tried so hard to keep in a shoot out at once, and they turn into a completely different person. The result is horrendous.
When pain hits her, everything turns upside down. What once looked like a happy and cheerful girl, is now shown as an emotionally unstable monster, her cries heard through the hearts of her loved ones, her tears burning her eyes. She shakes, cold and alone, breathing heavily and holding herself in her arms, in a futile attempt to stop the violent shaking. She chokes, gags, gasping for air, holding her chest that is in extreme pain, as she cries harder and harder, trying to catch her breath. She falls to the floor, her legs too weak to hold her any longer. Despair hangs in the air, and silence overtakes the girl as she weeps herself to sleep.
I am talking about myself. This is what I see when I think about when I had depression. I have done the things described above many times, and the pain I felt during those times was nearly unbearable. It has been some time since I was in that much pain, and I hope to stay happy so that I never have to feel that way. My worst experience was that of the last school year.
I had a friend, who I cared for a great deal, turn on me suddenly. I was distraught and confused, and this all but eradicated any happiness during my sophomore year. My trust of that person was and still is, lost, along with my respect for them. I still care a lot about them, but my past and my anger and sadness from that past make it hard for me to let them in.
I am slowly trying to let them in, and it is painful. I am afraid that if I let them in again, I will suffer the same pain I had before. But I am a forgiving person, and can never stay mad at people, even when I want to. So I am giving them another chance, to do what is right, and gain back my trust. If and when they do earn it, our friendship can still never go back to the way it was, due to my caution. I will always have that benefit of the doubt, that something could go bad and I wouldn’t see it coming. But for now, I am giving them another chance, not so that they can redeem themselves, but because I miss them, and I want my friend back.
Forgiveness. That is also a big part of the trust. When trust is broken, it tends to be put under a category of morally bad things. Some people claim that they can never forgive a person for what they did. I can. I always forgive people, no matter what they do. It is because of this that I believe that I may be a bit of a pushover. But I do not mind, and my friends admire and appreciate this trait because everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes all they need is another chance.
All in all, trust is the act of believing in and having in faith in someone, and believing that someone “will do right by you”. Trust is both an emotional and logical thing, for it can be the deciding factor of whether or not someone you care about is really who you think they are, and how you see them is the way they really look. It can also cause a person to gain wisdom, using past experiences to predict how certain things will play out with another person.
When trust is broken, it can leave people confused and hurt, and sometimes relationships can never be the same. Trust is an important part of human nature, and it can break holds, as well as make them stronger.
Trust can take on many meanings in today’s society. It can exist in all aspects of our lives and can have a dramatic impact on one’s personality. Trust, as a noun, is assured reliance on the character, strength, or truth of someone or something; or a property interest held by one person for the benefit of another. Trust, as a verb, is to permit to stay or go or to do something without fear or misgiving.
Trust is very important to me. I, myself, have had numerous experiences with trust, many helpless, and some hopeful. It has affected my life in every way. I must place my trust in my family, my friends, and most importantly, in myself. I deal with it every day of my life in the most unexpected of situations. Many a time, I can hold it accountable for my moods and emotions, and it can sometimes lead to arguments.
I feel that trust is very powerful and significant because of its ability to alter society in such a substantial way. Trust is never-ending; being dealt with on a day-to-day basis of belief and confidence. Once your self-trust is gone, so is your soul.
In the book Breath, Eyes, Memory by Edwidge Danticat, trust is a main theme in the book. Sophie and Martine are never trusted by their mothers, thus leading to the testing. A mother could not trust her daughter to keep her purity, so it was a mother’s responsibility to keep her whole.
The effects were traumatizing, leading to nightmares. It also led to Sophie’s phobia of the night. When she was with her husband, the testing gave her such nightmares; she had to bite her tongue to do it again.
She had no desire and thought it was an evil thing to do. The testing also made Sophie hate her body and be ashamed to show it to anyone, including her husband. This is an example of how trust can affect your life in more than one way.
This also relates to my own experiences in that trust has led us both to develop phobias. I, myself, have never been able to overcome the struggle of maintaining my self-confidence in the presence of large audiences, during discussions or presentations. For example, my valedictorian speech posed a serious problem for me.
Even the thought sent me into a dilemma. As one can see, I have come to the conclusion that trust can be held responsible for the numerous phobias that exist, since one most often lets pessimism make them falter, and does not learn to cope with problems through optimism. Martine also never trusted Joseph. You keep away from those American boys.
You keep away from them especially. They are upset because they cannot have you, echoed Martines’s constant warning. Martine was always trying to control Sophie’s relationships, making sure she didn’t get involved with the wrong crowd of people.
She didn’t trust Sophy’s friendships. Sophie often disobeyed her mother’s words and was forced to lie to her mother, so as to protect her from disappointment. My mother has often misplaced her trust in me, as well. She truly didn’t believe I had the potential to achieve something.
For instance, she didn’t entrust me in many situations dealing with friends, or on expeditions. I could never go outside or on class trips, without the constant warning of being careful when crossing the street, or not falling and injuring myself, or never wandering away from my class, lingering in the back of my mind. A lack of trust has also led me to depend more on lies, and slowly, but steadily, I have come to despise the truth.
Trust has also been in the news lately.
I recently read an article about a spontaneous crime of opportunity and deceit. A 19-year-old allegedly kidnapped her friend’s baby and made believe she was going to give birth to it. She even went so far as to tour the Women’s Wellness Center at Akron General Medical Center and Birthing Unit.
She said that she was going to have her baby baptized at Immaculate Conception Church in Ravenna, Ohio, and she also claimed that she rented a hall at the Knights of Columbus for a christening party. She even made up stories about ultrasounds and doctor appointments that never happened.
Her elaborate set of lies finally unraveled when she ended her own life one night. DNA-test results officially proved that the baby was indeed her friend’s child. The test results finally gave her friend permanent custody of her newborn son. The 19-year-old had been living in a world filled with fiction. She, so as to keep her boyfriend from dumping her, had laid out this plan.
I believe that she hid the truth behind a wall of conspiracy to protect herself from reality. She could not face the truth because she didn’t trust own mental strength. She didn’t have the confidence to stand up to her boyfriend for fear of less than the rewarding outcome.
My experiences, Sophies, as well as these 19-year-olds, are all relevant to each other since we all have given in to lies at one point in our lives for the mere short-lived happiness they bring.
Trust can shape one’s identity dramatically. People who are trusted tend to be more self-confident and outgoing. Those who are not trusted tend to not believe in themselves, do not speak up as much, and tend to excel at lies. Depending on your trustworthiness, you can also be judged on other aspects of your personality.
It can tell a lot about your personal life as well. Trust accounts for a vast part of one’s actions and decisions. Trust has come to play an important role in today’s society and it will forever take its toll upon us.
Example #6 – Interesting ideas
Trust is something earned by your actions and is a sign of one’s integrity. Trust is knowing that no matter what you are safe with someone in that no matter what you can count on them unconditionally physically and mentally to be there for you and usually it is a 2-way street.
Trust is knowing that someone you care about isn’t going to lie to you or use you or cheat on you behind your back. When you were a baby you trusted your parents to take care of you. And as an adult, if you don’t trust people it’s hard to have any faith in them. I hope this helps.
pretty tough one but honestly It’s very tough to define trust, different people define it in their own way and I don’t think I am capable enough to define it properly……but I will definitely tell what I think about it……..Trusting someone for me means I will not think twice before (telling, asking, expecting from) him/her what I want and I must say that I will not give a second thought before doing whatever I am going to do with him/her and will be sure that his/her response will be same as I expect………
Trust is faith. Being too trusting, means you have too much faith in another person.
This is where instincts and experience come in handy.
Experience hones your instincts about when to trust someone, by learning the obvious and the not-so-obvious signs of an untrustworthy person.
Instincts guide you whether you should trust someone or not.
I would advise you to trust a track record, those you have been good to you in a jam would likely be there for you again.
Remember though, that trust is a two-way street, and you yourself should maintain a good track record so that others will continue to trust you.
Trusting someone is trusting them not to hurt you.
I don’t trust people easily. For me, trust is earned. Just as I work to get people’s trust…I expect them to work for my trust. And, if they mess up once…then it’s back to square one. And, I’ll have to start all over. If it continues, then I lose all trust in that person.
YOU are the only person you can trust in the end. But, of course, there will be people in your life that you love and trust…and you accept that. But, I wouldn’t suggest trusting easily or trusting a lot of people.
In a way, trust is a currency. And our “accounts” can be full of it. But once we break the trust we can go bankrupt. Just as in bankruptcy, it takes a lot of years and proof of acting responsibly for the trust to return…..though it never can be the same as before. Once you get a mark on your credibility statement it is hard to remove.
Am I trustworthy? I would have to say yes. I have had the experience of meeting many who were not and “borrowed from their account” to learn the kind of person I do not want to be.
Trust is making oneself vulnerable to another who can take advantage and do you harm. It is allowing one to become vulnerable in the belief that notwithstanding the other’s ability to take advantage, he or she won’t do so.
It is a form of currency. At least it is earned like currency, one does not obtain trust without earning it–how? By being reliable and predictable under a variety of circumstances.
Once the trust in another is lost, it is probably lost forever since even if you choose to put yourself in the position where that person can do you harm again, you will always have a lingering doubt about whether that person can be trusted. So my thinking is it never comes again once lost because there will always be some voice in the head, some part of the person that says not to trust.