In this paper, I will argue that respect, when earned, is more stable, more specific, and allows for a better relationship then when respect is simply demanded. Respect has been a major issue throughout time. Towns and countries alike were crushed simply for disrespecting their invaders. Vlad Dracul, a Transylvanian ruler most feared for his barbaric behavior used to cut off the heads nonconformist villagers and place them on stakes outside his castle.
The reason this issue is so important is that if respect is unjustly demanded by everyone, everywhere, all the time, the idea of respect, will be cheapened and true respect will become almost worthless. The supporting arguments that can be made for my thesis are as follows: Earned respect builds a stronger relationship between people, can be more specific then demanded respect, and is more stable than demanded respect. Also, true respect must be built on experience, and therefore it is illogical to instantly demand it.
Earned respect builds stronger respect and a stronger relationship between people. When another person earns your respect you work harder to have that same respect returned to you by emulating that respect-worthy behavior. One example of this is my 5th-grade teacher, Ms. Cindy Lee.
By allowing us to call her by her first name, Cindy, she made the learning environment a lot more approachable. Another example is certain NYPD officers, who have to break the blue wall of silence, revealing illegal events and behaviors that have taken place.
By giving up and telling these secrets they have left a clean slate, showing them to be more honest, thus allowing them to form a better relationship with the people of the city. This point clearly shows that earned respect forms a better relationship then demanded respect since now that the people can respect the officers, they will have better communication.
When respect is earned it is more specific then demanded respect. If you respect someone for a specific talent, but don t actually think they are a good person, you can say that they have earned respect for their talent, but not for their character. An example of this is Bing Crosby. Although he earned respect for being great singer, people did not respect him for beating his kids.
The second example of this would be River Phoenix, who earned respect for his outstanding acting abilities, but was disrespected for his drug habit. This point supports my thesis because if respect is demanded it does not specify what is being respected. It is important that respect be specific because, as shown above, a person cannot always be respected universally.
It is ineffective to assume that if you demand respect, you will automatically get it. If it is assumed that respect will be given on command, or if respect if forced unto people it makes them reluctant to respect, and stunts the growth of any earned respect. Respect is normally demanded through fear, but the fear is not actually respect. One example of this is Czar Nicholas II.
His respect was commanded, and although it was willingly given to him, the respect was so fragile that Bloody Sunday, the unexpected massacre of peacefully demonstrating workers, destroyed their respect for him. The second example of this is Vlad Dracul. He kept people under control through fear of death, again not actually respect. This relates to my thesis because it shows that demanding respect does not always mean getting respect.
If respect is earned it is more stable then if it is demanded. This is because it is based on trust and experience. If respect is earned instead of demanded it is easier to maintain through difficult times. An Example of this is Gandhi. Gandhi earned the people s respect, and so they followed his peaceful resistance even when there were so many reasons not to. Another example of this is Jesus Christ.
Because the people respected him for his actions (an example, of earned respect), they followed him against the social and legal majorities of the time. This emphasizes the fact that when respect is earned instead of demanded, it is more stable, and can undergo more difficulties.
In conclusion, if respect is earned it is more specific, more trusting, and allows for a better relationship between people. Respect should be earned and is not automatic, even when expected or demanded. If we continue to regard respect as something given simply on the basis of social standing, no good stable relationships based on respect will be formed.
In three separate dictionaries, respect is basically defined as a regard for or appreciation of the worth or value of someone or something. In my opinion, respect goes far beyond this definition. Respect is the cornerstone of the society in which we live.
Although many look at respect as simply treating another person or thing with kindness, this word has many different aspects. For instance, I would not give an elder the same type of respect that I would give my peers or myself. Respect is not considered a necessity in this world but, I can’t imagine a person getting very far in life without this virtue.
Self-respect is probably the most important value for a person. It is said that in order to earn the respect of others, a person needs to learn to treat oneself with respect. I think that self-respect has a lot to do with one’s self-esteem. Self-esteem is an opinion of one’s own worth.
For example, a girl that sleeps around will probably earn the reputation of a slut or a tramp. In reality, she is coping with the stresses of low self-esteem. Sleeping with a number of men gives her a feeling of being wanted and loved. In the long run, this will ruin her self-respect. I believe that a person’s self-respect will determine the amount of respect that they give and receive from others.
Having respect for one’s elders is a moral value that is learned at home. A child watches and almost always copies the ways of his or her parents and elder siblings. If a student is disrespectful to his or her teacher, it is a certainty that they disrespect their parents.
I think that it is also a possibility that they receive this same disrespect from their parents. A child should be aware of the value of respect at a very young age. It is said that in 50% of cases, an abusive and abrupt parent will most likely produce an abusive and abrupt offspring. Teaching a child respect for their elders shapes the way that they will prosper and grow in all walks of life.
The amount of respect that a person gives their peers could shape the life and self-respect of another human being. I would define respecting your peers as treating them with equality. Children are so pressured these days to live up to a certain stereotype. The ones that do not fit into a social class in or outside of school are considered outcasts.
Children are often very cruel in the way that they disrespect their peers. Was the massacre at Columbine High School a result of the way that Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris were being treated by their peers or was it something more psychological? I think that in a way it was both. The disrespect that they were given day in and day out could have lead to psychological problems. We are told by God to “Love One Another” and respecting our peers is the beginning of social equality and love.
In all walks of life, respect plays a huge role in getting ahead. As the saying goes, “You get what you give.” This is also true on issues of respect. If you show respect to others, they will in return, respect you. In all aspects, respect is a feeling of well-being and contentment.
Example #3 – Egoism Utilitarianism And Respect Essay
All three are in practice around the world, a person can be only one of them, and each is morally right and morally wrong depending on how you look at it. I am speaking of course of the three major behavioral theories; Egoism, Utilitarianism, and Respect for Persons.
Each of them is justified within itself, however when viewed from another theories’ perspective, it may be morally wrong. To better understand the way this works, we will take a look at the three theories separately, and then I will defend the theory I think is most acceptable for everyone to live by.
To begin with we will take a look at ethical egoism. To basically sum up the belief of an ethical egoist, an action is right only if it produces consequences that promote the individual’s self-interest better than any other alternative action would. What is meant by self-interest may vary from individual to individual, but generally the list would include power, pleasure, money, security, reputation, and other such values. Self-interest cannot be used in terms of caring for others.
That is, caring for others is not allowed under egoism, as the ultimate goal is to promote one’s own self-interest. This is the one major implication (consequence) of this theory. An egoist cannot perform an action solely for the purpose of helping another individual, or because they care for that individual. If an egoist does something that happens to benefit another, that benefit is merely a byproduct of Jason Pyrz the promotion of the self-interest of the one taking the action.
Simply put, under egoism, you cannot do something because you care. As far as the application goes, this is a fairly easy theory to apply. The rules of an application under egoism are simple, if an action promotes your self-interest, it is morally right and should be done. If an action does not promote your self-interest, it is morally wrong, and should not be done. Under egoism, the only thing you are concerned with is the outcome. Whatever happens on the way to the outcome has no significance. This is a case of the end justifying the means.
The sticking point in the application of most theories is when two or more actions are morally right. Under egoism, this problem is taken care of easily. If two actions promote your self-interest, you choose the one that benefits your self-interest the most. If two actions equally benefit your self-interest, you may choose either one. Under egoism, there are no moral dilemmas.
This is because you cannot take the feelings of other people into account when weighing your options, whatever benefits your self-interest, no matter how many people it may hurt, is morally right. The last area of examination of the theories is the justification. The justification of the egoist camp is probably the weakest, next to the utilitarian justification. Egoists say that we are all egoists and that all of our actions are motivated only by self-interest. This is not a very powerful argument in my opinion.
The next theory to be examined is that of Utilitarianism. Here is another all-or-nothing, clear-cut theory like egoism. Under utilitarianism, an action is morally right only if it produces consequences that contribute to the greatest amount of happiness for the greatest number of people, more than another action would have. If an action would contribute less to human happiness than another action would, then that action is morally wrong and should not be carried out.
The major implication of utilitarianism is that everyone’s happiness counts the same. In other words, everyone is equal. This can be quite disturbing for some people because it means that you cannot give loved ones, or people you care about, special consideration when making a decision. To better understand this point, we must first look at how a utilitarian applies this theory.
Basically, the action that produces the greatest amount of good for the greatest number of people is the one that should be done and is the morally right action. If for example, action “A” has five units of happiness, and action “B” has six units of happiness, action “B” is morally right, while action “A” is morally wrong. Once again, the means are of no consequence in judging the action.
Even if “B” meant you had to kill five people to make six people happy, while action “A” could have meant planting a garden to make only five people happy, action “B” would still be the morally right action. To speak again about the implications of equality, consider the following hypothetical situation. You are married and have two children. Your neighbor has a spouse and three children.
Your neighbor expresses his family’s wish to bulldoze your house so that they can put a swimming pool in for themselves. The morally right thing to do under utilitarianism would be to let your neighbors bulldoze your house because the five of them would be happy, compared to the four in your family that would be happy to stay in the house.
This theory is used widely in scientific experiments. An example would be the government exposing a group of soldiers to radiation without their knowledge, to use those results to better prepare the country for a nuclear attack. The justification for utilitarianism, as mentioned previously, is another weak one. Simply stated, we already do seek the greatest amount of happiness for the greatest number of people.
This justification, along with that of the egoist, simply tell us that we already are one or the other, and fail to explain why we should practice the particular theory. This changes however with the last theory to be examined, respect for persons.
The last theory for our purposes is respect for person theory. This theory pretty much covers all the slack left over by the other two we have already looked at and attempts to even things out a bit. The definition for respect for persons is that an action is right only if it treats human beings, yourself, or others, as an end, respectfully, and not only as a means to an end. So as you can see already, this is the only theory we have seen so far that is concerned not only with the end, but the means as well.
The cornerstone of this theory is that since we are all human beings who possess rationality, we deserve respect. The only implication of this theory is that some actions are intrinsically wrong. This differs drastically from the previous theories, where moral correctness was based arbitrarily on personal points-of-view. Under respect for persons, if an action requires you to treat someone with no respect, that action is morally wrong, whether the lack of respect to the other individual comes as the end, or the means to the end.
If it comes as a means to an end, then it makes the entire action wrong. To use an example from the utilitarianism theory; if the government uses soldiers without their knowledge in radiation tests to better the preparedness of the entire country, that action would be considered morally wrong, because they failed to treat those soldiers with respect. Although it may not seem like such a big deal to a normal, average, everyday sort of person, this may be the worst implication to an immoral person.
As far as the application is concerned, this is the most involved of the three theories. The backbone of the application process here is the “Negative Test.” The negative test determines whether you are treating someone with respect by requiring you to ask yourself whether your actions or lack thereof, will threaten the freedom or well being of another or yourself. With that in mind, the steps of the application process follow.
The first step is to determine all of the possible courses of action you can take in a given situation. Next, you should determine which action(s) pass the negative test. Although there may be more than one morally right action, the one that passes the negative test better should be the one performed. On the other hand, if an action fails the negative test, it is morally wrong and should not be done. In the situation where all the options you have failed the negative test, you should pick the lesser of the evils, that is, the one that fails the test less than the others.
This action, however, is still morally wrong. Unlike Utilitarianism, this test does not deal with set “units” of good or bad, under respect for persons each action is considered differently, with the type of good or harm being looked at. And finally, all actions fail the test equally and may be done, although they are all morally wrong.
There is sort of a safety valve in this theory called the principle of forfeiture. What these states are that if an individual treats others only as a means, then they forfeit their right to be treated with respect. When we take a look at the justification for this theory you will notice that unlike the previous two, this just tells us why we should follow the theory. Simply put, because we are human beings we merit respect from ourselves and others, therefore we ought to respect ourselves and others.
If it were up to me to pick a single theory for everyone to live by, it would undoubtedly have to be the respect for person theory. Not just because it is the most politically correct sounding of the three, but because I have problems with the implications of the other two. The problem I have with egoism is that I know that I have feelings for other people and that I care about other people. Although I may not be as caring as some people, I do have feelings, so I know that I cannot live by the egoist rule of “no actions out of caring.”
The problem I have with utilitarianism is the obsession with equality. I cannot see how someone could sacrifice someone they love in order to make some people happy that they don’t even care about. We are all humans, with feelings and emotions, if we were all brainwashed to believe that we should treat everyone the same, no matter what the relationship, family-based society as we’ve known it since the beginning of history would collapse, and be replaced by an unfeeling, robot-like state.
Respect for persons is the only theory that allows you to make a choice between actions, as long as they are morally right in terms of treating people with respect. This is important, because you have a chance to make a choice that may benefit someone or something you care about, regardless of how many people it makes happy, or if you further your own self-interest.
Another reason for my choice is that this is the only theory concerned with the means as well as the end. If you harm someone in the process of doing something good for yourself, it should be wrong, however, under egoism, it is morally right, and under utilitarianism, it may be morally right.
Respect for persons is the only theory to lay down a set of what is wrong and what is right, whereas the other theories basically leave it up to the point of view of whoever is doing the action. For these reasons, and what seems to be a genuine attempt at a justification, I believe respect for persons to be the best theory.
Example #4 – A Lack Of Respect Essay
To Build a Fire by Jack London is a short story about a man traveling along the Yukon River in the bitter winter weather. While warned against traveling alone in the frigid cold, he ventures out to meet his companions at a remote camp many miles away, with only his dog. Overcome by nature s power, he eventually perishes along the way, leaving his four-legged partner to complete the journey alone. The story displays how the forces of nature can surprisingly overwhelm even the most confident of men.
The traveler, or also referred to as a chechaquo, is the main character of London s tale. He is a quick and alert man, yet lacks the imagination to see things in the big picture. We know that he knows the ways of the arctic environment, but it becomes obvious that he has never experienced a situation like this. The man is observant and quite resourceful, exemplified when he coaxes the dog to walk ahead of him across the ice, in case of soft spots.
A combination of arrogance and confidence are apparent with almost every thought he has. Even when faced with his own immortality, the man fights to contain himself and remain calm. London uses the dog traveling with the man to support some of the less obvious points in the story. We know from the dog s thoughts that the climate is not simply cold, but closer to unbearable.
The central conflict in the story is the Traveler vs. Nature. He displays a total lack of respect for the environment in which he has chosen to travel. From the beginning, the reader understands that the man is undertaking a task where most would wait for more suitable conditions. His trip begins well enough, yet soon becomes disastrous when he breaks through the ice and wets himself up to the waist. He is more angry than worried as he begins to build a fire to dry his wet boots and socks. His arrogance shows when he thinks to himself, Those old-timers were rather womanish.
Due to a grave mistake on his part of building the fire under a tree branch overburdened with fresh snow, his fire is doused out when the heat collapses the branch. His extremities are already numb from the cold and he lacks the dexterity to light another fire so begins to run in an effort to get to his companions camp as well as increase his circulation enough to warm up. He fails in both attempts and soon collapses from exhaustion. While laying in the snow, defeated and dying, he comes to understand that the old-timer was right. You were right, old hoss; you were right, he says. The man cannot deny the awesome power of nature has defeated him.
London writes, To Build a Fire from the complete omniscient point of view. We are aware of what the Traveler is seeing, hearing, doing, and thinking. We know things that happened before and what will probably happen after his death. This view allows us to gather facts, such as the seriousness of the temperature when the dog is depressed about traveling and knows that they should not be doing so.
Never in the dog’s experience had it known a man to sit like that in the snow and make no fire. shows the dog observing the man dying in the snow, in which it reflects on its past experiences and judges that something is wrong with the man. After catching the scent of death from the man it trots away in the direction of the camp. The reader normally would just see the dog walking away, yet the narration allows us to know what the dog was thinking.
The setting of the story is the Klondike along the Yukon River in the cold of winter. London gives the reader an extremely detailed picture of the place in which this all is happening. The day had broken cold and grey, exceedingly cold and grey is used by London to give us the introduction to the landscape of a winter day with chilling temperatures.
The frozen moisture of its breathing, when describing the dog creates the feeling that rather than just cold, it was extremely cold. The rivers are frozen with three feet of ice and just as much snow on top. The curves and bends and timber jams give the reader the impression of mounds of snow and ice with a creek frozen clear to the bottom. All of these phrases alert the reader to the importance of the frigid weather in the story, as it seems the Traveler pays little attention to the consequences of his lack of respect for the forces of nature.
Most people go through life and always hear about the word respect, but they don’t know what it means. Respect is the esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person. There are things in life you need to hold in respect. Respect for yourself, respect for others, and respect for property.
Respect is taught to people everywhere and it is even taught to them in their religions. Respect is the very aspect that keeps everything in your life. Respect for yourself is very important to a person because it can be the balancing factor of your life. If a person has no respect for themselves the will most likely go into depression.
Respecting your elders is important because they know more than you and they know what is good for you and what isn’t. Respecting your peers is important too. Respecting your peers means not making fun of them, not fighting, and helping them when they are troubled by something. Lastly respecting property means not damaging or taking something that is not yours.
Respecting property can vary from writing on a desk at school to stealing from a store. Respecting property is important because if you don’t it could be considered a felony offense. But respecting property is just using your common sense. There is a Japanese culture that teaches us to respect the environment because they believe that the earth is holy, such as the trees, grass, and animals. You may be asking yourself “what does this have to do with respecting property?”
But respecting property does not just mean that you shouldn’t damage things that are not yours but it also means taking care of your environment. There is an old saying “do onto others as you would have them do onto you.” How would you feel if someone came along and broke your bicycle, or trampled on your flowers? Most people don’t think about how the other person would feel if someone did something to their personal property.
Example #6 – What Respect Is The Word Respect?
When talking about the word respect, numerous individuals have no clue what it implies. This word changes its meaning depending on who is inquired. Several people, even ones who comprehend what respect implies, still have no respect for anyone else. A two-way streak that everyone appears to overlook is respect. The word respect has a one-sided meaning to it, as a consequence of all the disrespect around the world. Respect has different opinions, gone through history, and help shape famous quotes.
These days, numerous individuals have different implications for the word respect, however, there is only one genuine meaning. The definition of respect is as per the following, a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. Apperception, esteem, consideration, dignity, recognition, and honor are just a minority of the synonyms.
So of course, criticism, dishonor, disrespect, neglect, disregard, and ignorance are just a minority of the antonyms. Indeed, even across the world, there are different definitions of the word respect. Even throughout time, this word has changed numerous times. This word has endless implications around the world and all throughout time. For instance, an elderly person might find it respectful for another person to help them cross the street while on the other hand, they might consider it a sign of weakness.
Many people have different ideas about what respect means. I think it means having respect for others, property, and respect for yourself. Most people want respect even if it is just a little. The American Heritage Dictionary states that respect is
- A feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard, esteem.
- The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
- Willingness to show consideration or appreciation.
People demand different amounts of respect, though not everyone is willing to give the amount needed. Maybe this is because not everyone knows what respect means. The first rule is respect for others. A few of those “others” are teachers, police, authority figures, and business people.
This respect should be shown on the property of everyone including friends, teachers, and even strangers. The last rule is respecting yourself. Respecting yourself can mean holding your head up high and respecting your own ideas. You can share your ideas even if you might not think they are right. But it can lead to more important things like peer pressure, and not giving in to it. It is about not letting it affect you in any way or sort.
You can not have respect for others if you can not respect yourself. There are many little things you can do to show respect. For example, you can clean your room and set the dishes. You can raise your hand when someone else is talking when you have an opinion. Don’t be afraid to share your opinions and ideas. They can be a good example for someone.
Be a person that another person would want to look up to. You can not be this person when you have a lack of respect. You may not notice it, but respect plays a role in our daily lives. Respect follows you wherever you go. Whether it is in school, your home, or in a restaurant. You may not notice it that other people give you respect, but you do notice when they don’t. Even for the simplest reasons. If you are not respectful then you will not be respected.
People in school today never listen to the teachers. They talk when the teacher is talking, and totally disrespect the teacher. These students should treat the teacher with respect. Respect is showing high regard for one’s self, other people, and other people’s property.
In order to be respectful, a person must first respect himself. He should not harm himself by using alcohol or other harmful drugs. When someone does harmful drugs it shows very little self-respect. The person does not show high regard for his health and safety. Teenagers often do not show much respect for themselves because of doing drugs. Also, people should always try there hardest on everything. A person should think highly of his/her self, and not give up because he thinks he cannot succeed. This shows respect for one’s self.
A person should not only respect himself but also other people. A person should give positive remarks to their friends. They should not put them down, by saying negative things about them. If the person respects his friend, then they think highly of them, and won’t put them down. Also to show respect to people one should listen to what others have to say. Lots of times when people speak to others, other people will talk to someone else, or just tune the speaker out. This does not show respect to the speaker. They should be quiet and listen to the person speaking. Respecting others is very important if you want to be respected.
One should not only respect other people but their property too. Say, for instance, someone borrows his or her neighbor’s rake. The person should return the rake to their neighbor in the exact condition it was in when they got it. They should not abuse the rake while they have it but treat it like it is their own. Also when dealing with other people’s property one should always ask before using their things. They should always ask the other person before they take their property.
Example #9 – The Definition of Respect
Respect, by definition, is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. As accurate of a description as that is for respect at its highest level, there is a broader, simpler version of respect that too often eludes us in its practice. Respect for wisdom, authority, and just seeing your fellow human being as one’s equal are all things that have dwindled with each successive generation.
As the concept of respect becomes less prominent in our society, there are disastrous consequences being brought forth. Individuals must learn to treat one another as equals and show appreciation for crucial individuals in society: thus, learning respect.
Respect starts at home; if parents do not teach their children the value of respect at a young age, then it is likely that individuals will not grow up understanding his or her role in society. If a child grows up believing that his or her parents don’t hold any power over them, or if they don’t respect the role that their experience plays in life, arrogance and an unrealistic understanding of their place in the world is capable of setting in rather quickly. Naturally, having such a poor vision of the world can lead to deeper consequences down the line, as the individual attempts to re-learn the societal norms that are associated with respect.
One of the consequences of an inadequate demonstration of the value of respect in the household is that children grow up not treating their peers as equals; their inflated understanding of their own importance alienates them from having a true connection with another person. Further, because their sense of self-worth is skewed, they become more sensitive to perceived threats in order to protect their delusional state of mind that is often challenged by reality. This will, of course, makes them very unpleasant and alienate them from their peers to an even greater extent.
Perhaps the most blatant example of common respect in society is respect for authority. Individuals find themselves in a position where they are expected to respect their boss, police officers, military personnel, and even the entire government of the United States. While everyone has their own methods of respect; it is not uncommon for individuals to show respect by speaking politely, utilizing basic manners, thanking them for their service, holding doors open for them, and other small gestures that speak volumes about the deep-rooted respect the individual has for those men and women in uniform.
While unconditional respect for authority is quite debated; it is obvious that respect plays an important role in our society. Throughout history, there have been numerous examples of times where disrespect, even in the simplest of forms, leads to chaotic events that have disastrous consequences.
Whether it’s the dislike of one’s boss or the disdain for our government, authority is no longer recognized as something that is to be respected and is, instead, more often recognized as something that should be challenged, even if only in private remarks. More often than not, this lack of respect leads to animosity, verbal altercations, physical altercations, resentment, and so many other negative connotations.
Respect is an essential thread in the fabric of a well-functioning society; without it, people go through their lives without fully recognizing the inevitable hierarchies of human nature. Although American culture was built on the refusal to conform, a certain level of conformity is required to have a safe, stable life, and having a population that is generally arrogant and a bit narcissistic leads to a lack of reliability and consistency. On a more personal level, it also leads to a lack of satisfying relationships, a general disposition, and a personality that doesn’t lend itself to professional advancement.
Example #10 – The Role of Respect
Respect plays a role in our everyday lives. When we go to school, there’s respect. When we go to a restaurant, there’s respect. When you go to your family reunion, there is respect. You may not notice it, but that’s only because they are being respectful to you.
If you’re not respectful then you will be disrespected because your being mean. So you should always be respectful to others so they will treat you the way you want to be treated. If you are respectful to others then you can get good jobs because they’ll like you. The better the job is the better your life will be in the future, and trust me you want a good and happy future. Jobs will get you money for your great.
You being respectful will help you from being depressed from loneliness. You should be honest, kind, nice, gentle, relaxed, and happy to make friends. The word respect is a word to summarize all of the things above and plenty more. Things like being quiet while someone is talking, or not bothering someone when they’re in bad mood. I see respect all the time, that’s what makes everything so easy to do and no one gets sad. If I ever saw someone get knocked over and there stuff is on the ground scattered all over, I would definitely help him pick it up. Because otherwise, I would feel bad watching them pick it up all by themselves.
Always treat others the way you would want to be treated. This way you will be respected and loved. My definition of respect is being nice, generous, and helpful. Because all of those things can be the best things to do if you want to be respectful, which you should always be. So next time I talk in class out of turn, I will remember this two-page report about respect.
Respect can be making sure that everyone has equal time. For instance, if there was one toy to play with and their 5 kids that want to play with it. They should all share the toy at equal times to be equal. Because no one wants to give the toy to one kid that gets all the fun. We all have or should share and give to be nice and make some new friends.
Example #11 – Why Respect is so Important for Us?
Nearly anything will earn you respect in the eyes of someone. But only certain things will earn you respect in the eyes of those who are respected. It’s that simple. So, true respect is not earned of injuring oneself or breaking the law. The respect earned by that is not true and lasting, because it must be reaffirmed. It is so important for some to be respected that they would to that and more. However, the way to earn respect is to be respectful. Make it an attitude, not a thing given to a person after they have proven themselves.
This way, it can not be demolished by anything but Respect is something that many people would do many things for. Some would die for it, some would endure endless pain and suffering if they thought others would respect them for it. This is seen in the many rituals of gangs and the like, which include cutting, burning, or otherwise injuring oneself, simply to earn respect from other gang members. To me, this is ridiculous.
If someone cannot respect you for who you are than they are not worth the time and effort of earning their respect. A lot of people try to find respect from others because they feel that it is in their religion to respect and be respected. Unfortunately, at least for Christians, this is untrue. The bible simply says to love, and bring others to Christ. This does not mean to earn others’ respect, but just to love them even if they don’t respect you. In the case of other people, there is a mix of importance placed on respect.
Some people, like myself, depend only on freely given respect that is acquired through normal acts within your general range of behavior, rather than going out of one’s way to impress or earn the respect of someone. Sometimes this is misunderstood as not caring what others think of you to the point where you might behave in a manner that is immoral, illegal, and/or distasteful. For instance, I have a friend who only cares what many people would call the “lower” class of society thinks of her.
Therefore, she is drawn into distasteful, immoral, and often illegal acts that include violence, allowing others to contribute to her delinquency as a minor, and other various forms of immorality and illegality. These acts are often self-destructive and painful to those who love her, i.e., her parents.
By lowering herself to the standard of those she feels she needs respect from, she is carrying that want for respect to a point of hell. The world she is living in is a hell to most people, but due to those who give her a version of respect, it cannot be seen as such. I say a version of respect because I have seen the “respect” that she is given by her “friends.”
These people have no problem betraying her for drugs, or sex, or hurting her parents because they think they have the right. I have no right to truly judge, only He who sits on high can do that, however, from my mortal view, it seems that these people do not know the meaning of respect. I do not see that they respect my friend, or each other, or anyone else.
To me, respect means that you listen to someone’s ideas, follow rules that have been established (i.e. The Ten Commandments, or the law), as well as know when to help someone or ask them if they need help. To respect someone is not to assume that they are invincible, because that is idol worship, but to be their friend if they need it, to be able to put petty disagreements in the past, to follow their wishes if you have prayed and know it is in their best interest, due to knowledge gained from God.
That kind of respect is what is important to me. Respect given for injuring oneself or breaking a rule is fake, faulty, and will not stand the test of time. True respect, is like true love. It is unconditional. It is timeless. Just as true love can never be taken away, respect for a person is always there once established. Trust can be demolished, so can hate, and anger and envy, and all other bad or good things in this world, except for love and respect.
Love is God, and He will never be gone; Respect is of love, and once you truly respect someone or something, it cannot be taken away. That may be hard to grasp, because usually respect and trust go hand in hand, and I’ve already said that trust can be demolished. However, Respect is different than trust. Respect is not just to a person, it can be just something in general. Once it is to or for a person, then yes, it can be destroyed by that person. Real Respect is an attitude. It supersedes the person and gives way to the total. Real Respect is a state in which you do not defile anyone or anything for your sake.
True Respect, real Respect is selfless, because you must give of yourself to respect. This, in turn, yourself if you choose to do so. That is the kind of respect that is important to me, without it, I will never truly feel right, or like myself, as I do now, because I know I have that kind of respect. I earn it by being as respectful as I can, and anyone who will not respect me for that is not someone who’s the respect I won’t, because I will only be respectful to earn respect, as that is all I should have to do.
Example #12 – interesting ideas
Respect is Reciprocity. Not just tolerance. My parents are divorced and they hate each other although they live together, b/c of me. They tolerate each others’ outrageously funny and insulting comments, but they don’t respect each other. If I wasn’t there, I think they’d be locked up. Additional Views:
- Respect is not an action, it is a sense of belonging, which is neglected to learn or misunderstood for centuries.
- Respect is acknowledging other beliefs, morals, feelings, or interests. It’s basically doing the right thing from the other person’s point of view.
Treating someone else with at least as much deference as you yourself would consider appropriate. Respect is the utter acceptance of another in all their individuality, even against our preferences sometimes. Eg- I can accept Hitler as a good leader of Germany but I cannot accept he was a good human being, therefore- I can respect his leadership qualities but certainly NOT respect his ethics (or lack of).
Respecting your elders/parents. You could write a lot about that. Talk about a time you talked back to your parents or were disrespectful to them. And then later, realize that your parents do a lot for you and you learned to treat them properly with respect.
Respecting your friends. Maybe you weren’t a good friend, or maybe you had a friend who wasn’t a good friend. Develop a circumstance where you learned to give/receive respect. Respecting strangers. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated, aka with respect.
Respecting soldiers in the army for their service. They are “heroes” and should be given the respect they deserve. Respecting the police. Because it seems like people nowadays are singling out all the bad apples in the police force but don’t pay attention to all the good ones and what they have done for us. There’re loads of things, so just think about them and hopefully, you’ll be able to develop a good essay.
Write about how respect is important. People who do not have respect for others are not successful in life. They cannot learn unless they respect the teacher and they cannot advance in any field without learning from and respecting others.
Besides, respect is just the right thing to do. None of us is perfect. We respect others so that we can live in peace and make a better world for us all.
Being disrespectful does not actually hurt the one disrespected but hurts you. It blocks learning, it wastes time, it keeps others from helping us (and we all need help sometimes), it sets a bad example, and makes a bad environment for all.
We are all in this world together. We need to respect each other and in that way respect ourselves. This is a win-win. Those who disrespect become marginalized and do not get help from others. We all need some help from others sometimes. What goes around comes around.