Bullying in schools has negative effects on individual students and on the school climate as a whole. Bullying can cause long-term problems for both the victims of bullying and the bullies themselves. To explore the effects of bullying on adolescents, we will define bullying, identify the characteristics of bullies and victims, outline the extent and consequences of bullying, and present resources for further information and assistance. Bullying is any behavior that is initiated by one or more students against a victim or victims that causes physical or psychological intimidation. Bullying behaviors can be classified as either direct (such as teasing, threatening, hitting, or stealing) or indirect (such as rumor spreading or social isolation).
Boys typically employed direct methods of bullying, while girls tend to use indirect methods. Either way, behaviors must occur repeatedly overtime to be classified as bullying. Characteristics of Bullies and Victims. There are specific behaviors that bullies tend to exhibit. The bullies often need to feel powerful and in control. They may feel no remorse when they inflict injury and suffering on others. Bullies tend to defy authority and are likely to break school rules. They seem to have little anxiety and appear to possess high self-esteem.
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Students who come from homes characterized by physical punishment tend to be more likely to exhibit these types of behaviors. Victims also tend to exhibit specific characteristics. They are often anxious, insecure, cautious, and have low self-esteem. Victims tend to be socially isolated and may lack social skills and friends. Because they tend to be weaker than their peers, either physically or socially, victims rarely retaliate against bullies. Students who have close ties with their parents/guardians or who have overprotective parents/guardians are more likely to be victimized by bullies.
Many people do not realize how serious bullying has become. If you look at statistics suicides due to bullying have increased over just a few short years. This has become a very big problem for not only the victim but the bully as well as it affects both of them. School bullying is mentally destructive to not only the victims, but bullies because of the harmful words, harassment, and physical violence involved as well as the consequences for the bully. The general definition of bullying is, “… This states that a person is being bullied when he or she is exposed repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons” (Aluede et al. 3).
The most common type of bullying among females is verbal bullying (“Verbal Bullying” 1). This type of psychological bullying uses derogatory terms to demean, or lower, the victim in the eyes of others to show that the bully has power over them (“Verbal Bullying” 1). This causes the person to have low self-esteem and develop depression in that victim (“Verbal Bullying” 1). Verbal bullying is the most psychologically damaging and lasts well into adulthood. “Words have a power all their own, and the realities of verbal bullying can have very physical consequences, even if the aggressor never lays a finger on the victim” (“Verbal Bullying” 1).
In more severe cases of verbal bullying or any bullying for that matter, can lead to drugs because the victim wants to escape his or her tortured life, in more extreme cases if the person’s depression worsens it could lead to suicide (“Verbal Bullying” 1). The well-organized ripping away of respect and affection is called emotional bullying. Emotional bullying can be as simple as ignoring the person’s feelings, not listening, forcing the victim to do something they would not normally do, and laying a guilt trip on the victim’s backs to manipulate that person to do what the bully wants.
School bullying is an act that having physical, verbal, emotional, or electronic connections to the victim which connected to education. It takes place either inside or outside of the schools. School bullying can be categorized in types and the common acts that used to target the victims. Bullying can always happen physically, emotionally, verbally, and electronically. This always repeated in a period of time. Eventually, school bullying happens in every single corner of the school. The most happening areas are toilets, hallways, corridors, canteen, abandoned classrooms, school buses, or bus stops. Besides, during PE class and recess time is the all-time favorites for school bullies to take action on their target.
School bullies always come with a group of students who are under control by a so called leader in the group. Their motive is to conquer and rule the school among the students. They will search for their target and eventually start their mission on those weak victims. The group of students takes advantage or isolates a particular student and gain loyalty from the bystanders who want to avoid being the next victim. These school bullies will first tease and taunt their target before physically attack the target. The targets of bullies in school are students who are weak and low-self esteem or treated as a freak by their peers. Students who are extraordinary if compared to their peers will treat differently by their peers either in positive ways or vice versa.
In Malaysia, KUALA LUMPUR, 3 July 2007 – “Recent cases of school bullying have become a cause for concern in Malaysia. One of the more appalling incidents of bullying that stunned the nation was the brutal assault of a 16-year-old student by his school seniors in 2005 which led to his death. This case and others like it have raised public concern about violence in Malaysian schools.”- (Sumber: Unicef Malaysia communications,2007). This incident has raises concerns among society. This is crucial and not acceptable which declared by the minister of education. The minister of education in Malaysia has made a public statement to the bullies that bullying case is not acceptable and unforgivable.
The most important thing to know about bullying is not only the form of physical violence, but the most common destructive form in Malaysian schools is psychological destructions. People tend to concern about physical bullying but ignored psychological bullying. This is a huge mistake that overlooks one side but not the other side of bullying, and this is very dangerous that might lead to crucial suffering for those victims. Not only the normal students face school bullying, had princess Aiko from japan faced the problem as well. This incident causes the child absent from school and having a phobia towards school. Her problems, said the Imperial Household Agency, arose from her “rough behavior” at the hands of boys in her age group at the ultra-exclusive Gakushuin school she attends in central Tokyo. (The times, 6 march 2010)
Concept of school bullying. Definition. School bullying is the systematic abuse of power (Rigby, 2002) in school which now can define as aggressive violent behavior on victims who failed to defend themselves. (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Volume 9, No. 3, 2004, pp. 98-103).In Malaysia, based on a study, 74.9% of students are psychologically-physically victims and followed by 53.2% of students involved in both types of bullying, 14.5% of non-bullies, and finally 8.6% of non-victims. Recently, the bully has become a major problem and it needs to be overcome through the intervening programs (Greenbaum, Turner, Stephens, 1989; Wilson, 1992). The whole nation was concerned and aware of this matter. A study on how common students were bullied in schools reveals that almost 80% of primary school students have been bullied, and the majority happen in the classroom. (Sumber: Unicef Malaysia communications, 2007)
Types of school bullying. There several types of bullying in schools. Bullying can take many forms as indirect bullying, indirect bullying, and cyberbullying. Direct bullying can be physically assaulted on the victims or verbally attack. School bullies often teasing and taunt their victims, verbal attacks, shoving and etc. While indirect bullying is more to verbal and social behavior. Bullies will verbally and emotionally attack their victims. Such as spreading inaccurate rumors about a person spoilt their reputation, practical jokes, shunning and etc. At last, cyberbullying is the use of advanced internet technology, including social websites, text messaging and emails to destruct their victims.
Verbal bullying is the most common type of bullying experienced by both boys and girls. Boys are more likely to be physically bullied by their peers (Olweus, 1993; Nansel et al., 2001); girls are more likely to report being targets of rumor spreading and sexual comments (Nansel et al., 2001). Girls are also more likely than boys to bully each other using social exclusion (Olweus, 2002). (source: Unicef Malaysia communications, 2007)
The bullies and the victims. Besides the traditional roles of bully, victim, and noninvolved, a number of studies have examined the situation of bully-victims or provocative or aggressive victims. Children showing characteristics of both bully and victim. Not surprisingly, a number of studies suggest that these children are more at risk than either pure bullies or pure victims(Duncan, 1999; Wolke et al., 2000). The bullies normally tend to have average or high self-esteem. They possessed impulsive and hot-tempered characteristics. They lack empathy and they do have difficulties in obeying the rules, the most important thing is they have positive attitudes towards violence (Olweus, 1993).
Who are the targets for the bullies? Bullies will always know who their targets are. They will select their prey by judging their targets. Normally victims are in small sizes, nerdy bookworm looks, weak and low self-esteem. The effect of bullying on the victims is traumatizing. It will cause the student to have a phobia of school. They dare not and afraid of going to school. School is a nightmare for them and this resulted in a negative impact on their emotions. They initially lost their interest in school activities and works, poor performances in studies, poor attendances, and mood swings such as depression, isolation from others, and limited contact with other people.
Effects of bullying. “Emotionally, victims of bullying often suffer feelings of great distress and fear whenever they are in school.” ( source: Unicef Malaysia communications, 2007) Most of the victims will put the blame on themselves for the bullying actions, and they believing that it is their weakness or incompetence that contributes to them being picked on by the bullies. “Some victims of bullying harbor intense anger and bitterness towards bullies and the social cliques that condone and support bullying behavior.” (source: Unicef Malaysia communications,2007) If this anger unable to resolves, the victims will end up bullying others to revenge and express their anger, and these are classified as bully-victims. Others might express their anger such as anti-social behavior. They may turn up to be vandalism and theft.
Besides, it might lead to suicidal attempts. Bullying can lead to suicidal attempts as crucial bullying behavior can cause a victim to choose the suicidal path to end the suffering. Bullying can affect a child’s learning process. In order to have a quality education, a child should have explored in a safe, secure, and high-quality environment. These can help them adapt to a better learning environment and physically, emotionally, and intellectually healthy. On the other hand, while under the threat of being harm and humiliated, a child can never able to fulfill their academic potential. While in social skills, they tend to be isolated from the others, n left to be low self-esteem. Lack of communication and interactions with their peers will make the conditions even worst for them. This may result in that case bullying grow rapidly among the students.
Factors influencing bullying behaviors. Attitude. Guerra and Nucci (1992) found out that delinquent students showed a lower tendency to consider moral issues as wrong and harmful than their non-delinquent peers, and they considered the moral issues as a matter of personal choice. ( Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences). This has shown that the fundamental of a person’s personality and attitude influence their behaviors. A child who is having aggressiveness in attitude will act rashly and recklessly. This shows that they are unable to control their behaviors due to their attitude that has rooted deep in them.
“Therefore, it is expected that higher positive attitude toward aggression predicts higher bully tendency” (source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences). Cultures and environment. The cultures and the school environment plays an important role in influencing bullying in schools. The school environment and the cultures in the school bring a huge impact on influencing students to involve in school bullying. If the school’s culture in school bullying has been brought from generation to generation, school bullying in this school rather crucial and this is the main concern that school bullying occurs and unsolved yet.
Students easily influenced by a group of people especially their seniors from the higher form. People, who have individualist beliefs, are inclined to be personal oriented. (source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences) . The environment around the school is important. If the environment in the school is tensed and uptight which full of bullies, students tend to be losing their intelligence and failed to think rationally. Students tend to be either preceding the bullying behaviors or continue suffering under this bad circumstance.
Family. Family members seem to be the most influential party. The relationship between parents and their kids and the way their parenting will influence children’s social behavior. “A conflictive, cold and rejecting raring style leads to a lack of considerateness for others “(Shaffer, 1994). The attitude of the parents rooted in the child’s mind and this may result in how the child will act in the future. Fraczek and Kirwil (1992) found out the children had parents, who stress achievement and competition, tended to be more aggressive than the other children. (source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences)
In a family, parents are the most important role in educating their child in a proper manner. Parent’s values and beliefs are important factors to constitute the child’s values and beliefs. Parents transfer social norms and values to the next generation through direct instruction and in a vicarious way. ( source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences)
Self perspectives. Self-perceptions linked to different perceptions from different angles. There are three main perceptions involved in school bullying. The victim’s perspectives, According to prior studies (Kim, 1997: Kwag, & Lee, 1999), most of the victims did not know why they were bullied. They have the idea which they are too bashful and don’t have any close friends. Some victims regarded their bad school grades and bullies’ evilness as the reason for bullying (Kim, 1997; Schaefer, 1998). (source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences). While in bullies’ perspectives, they are either way too superior to the others or they are intimidated and feeling insecure. Mostly bullies who are superior always choose their weak victims as their targets.
While those bullies who are insecure always bully to get attention and needed friends to surround them. Besides them, parents’ house, revenge, and the victim’s bad school performance were selected as the reason for bullying. ( source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences). While bystanders are those who either could be a victim or not. They thought that the victim’s behaviors mostly is the reason that being bullied. As for the bullies, they bullied to gain strength and they just behave like the others. ( source: Kim, Su-Jeong (2004): A Study of Personal and Environmental Factors Influencing Bullying. Dissertation, LMU München: Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences)
Ways to curb the problem. Teachers. Teachers play a vital role in supervising the students so that they do the right things. Therefore, using the education assignments and projects on a weekly or monthly basis can encourage the students in doing the right things. As a teacher, students’ safety is the main concern. School bullying can be causing trouble and problems for the teachers. Teachers have to make a stand that bullying is not tolerated and acceptable in classrooms, schools, and everywhere. Teachers have to ensure that if anyone in the school has a problem with bullying, they must report or have a personal talk with the teacher.
Teachers must let the students know that they can be trusted and ensure their safety. Teachers should take action immediately once witness a case of bullying in their presence. Besides offering protection and immediate actions, teachers are responsible in educate the students about school bullying. The importance of anti-bullying in school and severe punishments will offer if bullying happens around the school compound. Teachers should set a good example and be a role model among the students. Students tend to observe and imitate teachers’ behaviors. Teachers should always let a child feel loved, appreciated, and respected. Besides, teachers should promote a sharing and loving culture among the students.
School. Schools play a vital role effectively to reduce bullying by developing a safe and supportive school environment; School should raise awareness among the students, teachers, parents, and the public as well. School’s authority should offer better supervision during recess and lunch hours by teachers. Meanwhile, consistent and immediate consequences for aggressive behavior must take place. Schools should encourage the public and offer generous praise for pro-social and helpful behavior by students. Besides, school authorities should drafts out specific class rules against bullying. If school detected case bullying around the school area, serious individual talks with bullies and with victims must take place. Other than that, serious talks with parents of bullies and victims are very important. Schools should always update the students’ news to their parents and prevent the problems together. Last, a meeting of the school with parent-teacher (home and school) organization on the topic of bullying should hold once a while to understand and find solutions for preventions.
Parents. Parents play a vital role in prevents and curb school bullying. A loving and caring family always can show support to the child. Parents should raise awareness among themselves in order to protect their children from danger. Everyone has the responsibility of solving the problem. Parents are encouraged to cooperate with the school immediately to make sure their child is safe. Parents should educate the values and the right things to the child. The parent’s attitude and ways of bringing up the child determined the child either to be a useful person or a bully in society. Parents should try to communicate with their children, understand them, listen to their feelings, and find the major problem in their child. If the child is timid, lack interactions with peers, parents should arrange for their child to participate in positive social groups which able to meet his or her interests. In order to develop their child’s special skills and self-confidence in the social group can be very helpful. Parents should work hand in hand with the school by suggesting that the school implement an anti-bullying program.
Media. How media can play a part in preventing school bullying in schools? Media play a vital role in prevents school bullying. Advertisements should able to raise awareness among the public. After all, media is the best way to convey messages and awareness to the public. Besides, TV, movies, and videogames are the main sources in influences the kids and carry more verbal and physical violence. In order to hold the responsibility among the public, media literacy seems to be a good way to prevent violence among the child. The media should have censorship on violence issues on tv, movies, and video games. Besides, by raising awareness among the public through the radio stations, newspaper articles, and banners. Besides, the internet is one of the technology media that can spread the word through the network to the whole worldwide. In the United States, they set up an anti-bullying website which included information on teachers’ role, schools’ role, victims, and bystanders’ role. It included ways to prevent and how to stop the bullying spread in schools or around them.
Theory in the sociology of education that connected in this issue. The sociology of education is a study on the role and the relationship between society and education, and the relationship between the main objectives and process Research and development in education. Besides, it included the relationship between the public institutions, religious and political aspects in the education field. There are three main theories were introduced in this study, functionalism, conflict, and symbolic interactionism. In this topic, the case of school bullying is a social issue associated with physical violent behavior which is considered easy under certain conditions, such as poverty, racial or aggressive anger, or family influences.
Under Conflicts theory, the main founder is Karl Marx “the communist manifesto” emphasizes the social status or social life in the society, the materialist of history, and the oppression of the economy from revolution or, at least, reform. In this theory, there is something similar related to bullying. The imbalance of social status raises conflicts in society. So as in school, the students form themselves a hierarchy system according to their academic potential. This shows the “social status” among the school kids. The higher status or so-called the high intelligent kids will control the lower status citizens. They will hurt the kids verbally, physically, and emotionally to gain their status and strength or supporters.
In Karl Marx’s theory is that the economic structure in society leads to political oppression. As in history, people make use of their economic status to gain control among the people in the hierarchy. The economic structure of society includes the ideas of ideologies, morality, literature, and arts. From history, reflects on what is happening in the school now. School bullying somehow derives from history. How the bullies use their strength or status power to gain attraction and power in oppressing the weakest links. While in the educational angle to view this theory, the role of the school seems like is the place to create the social status hierarchy among society.
Schools that adopted this approach normally is a school of elites. They emphasize the importance of social status and positives competition among the students. The school is dominated by the elite group, as the incompetent students or come from the lower class in the hierarchy will remain as the low-class citizens. The school will always prioritize the elite groups. School bullying starts and will remain as a culture here, as the school priority is the elite groups and they emphasize social status. The teachers are playing a vital role here.
Although the culture and environment in the school encourage bullying indirectly, teachers should set a role model to avoid negatives competitions and malicious, practical mean behaviors among the students. The theory that applies in certain schools shows that this approach encourages competition between one and another. In order to take down one and another, to prove that the victorious, status, and strength. There are critics of this approach shows that it does not maintain stability among society. In the education field, no matter which approach the school adapts; the role of the school should always provide quality educations and academic purposes to a child.
Summary. School bullying occurs everywhere in this world. In the United States, students who are under depression resulted in bullying were opting for suicidal attempt to end these mean behaviors. The purpose for students to go to school is to obtain knowledge, learning, and be a better person who can contribute to society. The factors that lead to school bullying occur in school mainly because of influences. Influences from the peer’s pressure, influences from the society, and influences from the family, influences from the school and environment, and the cultures are directed to the incidents and effects of case bullying.
The main roles in curb the problems always arouse with the teachers, the schools, the parents, the media, and society. Everyone has the responsibility to overcome this problem. Everyone has the responsibility to curb this problem and to reduce the risk of hurting the child.
Research on the statistics of school bullying in Malaysia according to statistics gathered by the Center for Addiction and Mental Health, roughly one in three students in form 1-5 reported been bullied at school, not just only at the playground, but the hallways, corridors, toilets and every corner in the school. Now, the latest bullies’ technique is by using the latest technology. They use the internet, text messages, e-mails, and internet posting to social networks; to intimidate their targets.
Bullying can be defined as aggressive behavior that takes into account unwanted and negative actions toward another person or group of people. It is a situation whereby people repeatedly and intentionally use actions or words against others with an aim of causing distress and risks to them. Bullying is most evident when there is an imbalance of power among individuals. For instance, powerful or influential people are said to practice or bully other learners (Olweus, 1993, p. 20). In addition to this, those in power tend to bully others with an aim of making them feel less powerful. Bullying is totally different from conflict though it has been evident that some people bully others because of conflict. The purpose of this study is to explore bullying as it applies in the learning institutions such as schools (Olweus, 1993, p. 45).
There are three different types of bullying namely face-to-face bullying, covert bullying, and cyberbullying. Despite their differences, the results are the same that is distress and pain to the people being bullied. Face-to-face bullying is an interesting area of study because it clearly demonstrates bullying in school (Espelage & Swearer 2004, p. 71). Students tend to think that bullying is harmless by considering it as a part of life or growth for juniors to experience. On the contrary, bullying is harmful because it can result in physical harm, loneliness, insecurity, and unhappiness to students being bullied. Face-to-face bullying involves actions such as kicking or punching, insulting, and name-calling (Smith, Pepler &Rigby, 2004, p. 57).
Students consider bullying as a school culture even though it is contrary to the school rules and regulations of schools. From a historical point of view, bullying is often associated with senior students who perceive themselves as being more powerful than juniors. In regard to this, newcomers or first-year students are the victims of bullying (McGrath, 2006, p. 23). It has been noted that bullying gains its historical roots from the discipline of the school. This is to means that the origin of bullying could be traced back to the history of the school based on the aspect of the discipline. In schools where discipline is lacking, there are high levels of bullying among students because there are no active rules that can hinder them from bullying each other (Van- Krieken, Habibis, Smith, et al, 2010, p. 34). However, it was further noted that students bully each other because they have been bullied before meaning that they bully others as a way of revenge for what happened to them (Rigby, 2007, p. 61).
Through a review of several types of research conducted in the U.S. based on bullying in public school, it was evident that eighty percent (80%) of public school experience some incidence of bullying among the students, for instance, public schools with students of different or varying races such as the black American and the whites (Rigby, 2007, p. 36). In such schools, segregation of students by race is highly witnessing with white students bullying black American students because of ethnic background (Beane, 2010, p. 25). Nearly in every school, there is a certain level of bullying because bullying is perceived as a school culture whereby students nickname each other, insult, and punch or kick each other. Statistically, in every 100 fresher’s, at least twenty percent are bullied by senior students. Second-year students are said to practice bullying more often than any other students because they tend to think that the first years are powerless students in school.
The research findings indicated that schools with high levels of bullying experiences low levels of academic performance among the students. For instance, according to Beane (2010), 90% of bullied students attain poor grades in school because their concentration is interfered with by bullies (Beane, 2010, p. 43). Bullying in schools is highly associated with the level of discipline practiced in schools meaning that schools with low levels of discipline provide fertile grounds for aggressive behaviors leading to incidences of bullying. As mentioned within the context of the study, bullying is applicable in every public school in varying levels of implications. Africa- American students are prone to bullying by the whites students in American public schools. Bullying can only be eliminated if discipline is given a place to play in school but it is quite difficult to clear or do away with bullying in its totality because it is perceived by students as a school culture.
Unfortunately, we cannot deny the existence of bullying among children. According to the American Psychological Association, forty to eighty percent of school-age children experience bullying at some point during their school careers. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance according to the Stopbullying Website, A federal government website managed by the U. S. Department of Health and Human Services. Four different types of bullying are physical, verbal, covert, and cyberbullying. Bullying leaves physical and psychological consequences on the victim, bully, and also other children involved. Different kinds of bullying have short term and long term consequences that temporarily and permanently affect the bully and the bullied.
There are four basic forms of bullying among children. The first and most typical kind of bullying is physical bullying; this kind of bullying includes any physical contact like punching, hitting, pushing, or any other forms of physical abuse. Taking and destroying other children’s belongings by force is considered a kind of physical bullying. The second kind of bullying is verbal bullying, such as using humiliating names, joking about the person’s parents, religion, gender, or the way that they look. A good example of this kind of bullying is making fun of the way another kid walks, runs, or even talks. The third kind of bullying is covert bullying like spreading rumors or stories about someone else. For example, a rumor like a boy in your class is a bed wetter or plays with dolls.
Also excluding someone from a group or team, and threatening to such a level that the victim does whatever bully request other examples of covert are bullying. The most recent form of bullying is cyberbullying. Cyber Bullying is done by sending messages, pictures, emails, text, or any information using electronic devices like computers or cell phones. As a result of short-term and long-term consequences of being bullied the victim will experience immediate physical or mental health issues and more serious problems in the future. Bullying victims have more sleeping difficulty, dropping grades, sadness, low self-esteem, and headaches. In general, the victims have few or no friends due to their anxiety level and their feeling of isolation.
Feeling lonely and sad can have an effect on the victim’s learning abilities as well as school success; the victim becomes afraid of going to school or work. Another result of bullying is that the victim might become violent towards him or her selves and other children, and it is a huge possibility that a lot of school shootings can be related to this issue. In some cases, bullying can go on for a long period of time and the victim can have thoughts of suicide and possibly commit suicide. A recent incident of committing suicide because of bullying was a thirteen-year-old girl, who was bullied by her girlfriends in the school.
According to New York Daily News, she committed suicide by jumping off a cement factory tower on September 10, 2013, in Florida. Long-term consequences can be almost as bad for the bully as for the bullied. Bullies are more prone to criminal behavior than others and are more likely to end up using alcohol or drugs in adolescence and as adults. For example, while they are kids they may commit shoplifting or drop out of school; also as a grownup, they may using a gun to prove their domination on other people, getting involved in physical fights, or doing other violent activities. It is very hard for bullies to deal with other people who are physically stronger. The Bullies cannot accept to be a victim, so they try hard to overcome the stronger opponent and to ignore embarrassment in front of other children by even getting into big trouble or committing a crime.
Also engaging in early sexual activity is another risky behavior of the bully children. The bully’s desire for power will affect their behavior with their wife and children in the future such as being abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses, or children as adults. However, some of the adult bullies will regret their behavior, and as a result of becoming depressed and weak, they will commit suicide. Some people think that bullying is a part of childhood, and children will become stronger and learn to stand up for themselves. However, a lot of research shows that bullying in fact can cause negative social, emotional, and academic consequences. The four basic kinds of bullying are physical, verbal, covert, and cyberbullying which all have a profound effect on children’s lives.
Depression, anxiety, sadness, and loneliness are some of the negative effects of being bullied. In contrast, drug and alcohol abuse, criminal convictions, and violent behaviors are some of the negative effects of bully children. The best way to address bullying is to stop it before it starts. If bullying behaviors happen in the school, the bully and the victim’s parents and school officials must meet immediately. They should solve the matter through a child adviser and find out the reasons behind the behavior. They are responsible to show the students how important this issue is and what are the consequences of the bullying behavior. Also, all parents must educate themselves and their children about bullying behavior, and even use professional help if it is needed.
The issues associated with bullying and violence in school is seen to be rampant even in the community. These issues are related to threats, physical aggression, and harassment, and teasing. However, it is important to note that the behavior should not be accepted as it is an anti-social behavior that destabilizes the quality of the school environment. At the same time, it is responsible for interfering with the academic performance of the student and social interaction. There are those students that will find themselves suffering from physical and emotional trauma which may lead to extreme cases of violence (Rigby & Australian Council for Educational Research, 2010). Therefore, the main aim of this paper is to condemn the acts associated with bullying and come up with strategies that can be applied by both the parents and the school to stop the acts of bullying and violence in schools and the community. At the same time, the paper will look at the facts associated with bullying and the reasons why students engage themselves in the act in order to come up with a suitable strategy.
One of the most fundamental things is to understand the reason why the majority of adolescent children become bullies. The term bully is used to ascertain and explain an individual who engages himself in verbal, physical, or psychological harassment or aggression towards others. The main reason for them to engage in such behaviors has always been to gain dominance and power over other individuals (Lee, 2004). Three main issues usually point out to the reason as to why the children might pick up the bullying traits. The first issue is associated with family factors whereby the children might not receive the required supervision from the parents. Children who witness the act of bullying by their parents or siblings have the highest chances of being bullies themselves as they grow up. The children who have negative concepts and perceptions in life are explained to receive the same at home, which is sometimes accompanied by physical punishments (Rigby, 2007).
They always live in fear and will find themselves attacking others before they are attacked as a form of protection. As they are bullying others, they feel comfortable, as it is the only way they can experience importance and power. The second issue is associated with the school factor whereby the trait is reinforced as the children intimidate their counterparts (Rigby & Australian Council for Educational Research, 2010). The students that receive negative feedback all the time as compared to other students are vulnerable to become bullies in order to be recognized. The final nature is through peer group factors.
Students who are in schools or neighborhoods that advocate bullying will find themselves engaging in these behaviors. They will engage in bullying with the aim to fit in even if they are uncomfortable with the entire behavior. In addition, bullying is seen to be the leading influencer of violence amongst students. Bullies do not have respect for fundamental human rights and will always resort to violence with the aim of resolving their issues. The retaliation by the victim might lead to fighting and in some cases, gang shootings in schools as reports in the past have shown (Lee, 2004). Frustration from both the victim and the bully might lead to vengeful acts of violence.
What Schools Can Do. Different schools have reactive measures, which help them in curbing bullying and violence in schools. Some measures such as having surveillance cameras, metal detectors, and police officers have not been effective as was expected. Schools have zero tolerance for acts of bullying and violence in schools. The measures sometimes lead to expulsion and suspensions. However, this has been seen to have a negative impact on the life of the victim, as they would end up being victims of violent vengeful attacks by the punished student (Lee, 2004). Nonetheless, schools are expected to come up with programs that would prevent bullying and violence in schools at the same time promoting a positive environment for the victims and the bullies. The programs are expected to have participation from parents, students, members of the community, and educators.
The first aspect deals with providing early intervention. This would mean that the bullies should be intervened while they are in the early stages of education such as preschool, middle school, or in elementary. Schools, groups, and the community are expected to advocate for training the students in social skills (Rigby & Australian Council for Educational Research, 2010). This will work if it is applied together with systematic aggression intervention and counseling for students seen to exhibit bullying behaviors. The program is expected to be spearheaded by trained mental health personnel and school psychologists who will be responsible for evaluating and selecting the best programs.
The schools are also expected to balance between behavioral with discipline support in their system. A clear understanding of the consequences of bullying and violence should be made standard for all the students. The school is expected to impose interventions that are related to positive behaviors, which will be responsible to change the behavior of the students instead of having programs, which are based on solely punishments (Rigby, 2007). The school is also expected to support the efforts of the parents in teaching the children the expected social skills. Parents are expected to reinforce positive behaviors, which are related to good interpersonal interactions. This can be done through social workers, school psychologists, and counselors who will intervene whenever a student is a victim or starts to exhibit bullying behaviors.
The schools are also expected to equip their staff members and teachers with intervention and prevention skills. The teachers are to be trained to identify and respond to damages that might have resulted from victimization. They are to offer positive modeling and feedback which would foster better social interaction. The schools are also responsible for changing the attitude that is present in bullying. This will enable the students to empower each other. For instance, there is a trend in schools whereby the other students become bystanders and watch as the weak students are being bullied. It is important for schools to teach them to stand for each other and work together to stand against bullies (Lee, 2004). The concept will make the students feel safe whenever they are with their fellow students.
What Parents Can Do. When it is a question of bullies, the parents are expected to play a crucial part in ensuring their children do not become bullies. They are expected to always notice their children’s attitudes and behaviors. This can be in both victims and bullies. For instance, victims of bullying usually exhibit some behaviors that should signal the parents that there is something wrong. The child might sometimes become withdrawn or reluctant when it’s time to go to school which is normally accompanied by a stomachache, headache, and sleeping problems. The parents should also notify the school’s administration whenever they notice that their child is a victim of bullying. The parents are also expected to teach their children strategies for countering bullies. The strategies might range from standing up for themselves and confronting the bully with words that might not lead to violence (Rigby & Australian Council for Educational Research, 2010). Children are also required to possess’ good social skills whenever they are young. This is the work of the parents to ensure that they do not have bullying traits whenever they are young as it starts as early as two years.
Conclusion. It is important that both parents are teachers develop good social skills for the children. Bullying traits start at home and will be exhibited in schools. Therefore, there should be strategies and programs set by both parents and teachers. It is essential that adults construct an environment both in school and in homes that will not be conducive for any act of bullying. It is not inevitable that all the children that are growing will have to bully their counterparts. This is a trait that is normally influenced by the people surrounding the student at home, school, peer groups, and the content of the media. Nevertheless, the trait can be prevented or untrained by the individual concerned. The main concept is to make the students understand how to treat each other rather than victimizing them through threats and cruelty. The reason as to why this paper takes a firm stand on acts of bullying is due to the fact that the life of the victim is interfered with sometimes permanently.
Example #7 – Adolescent Bullying and School Shootings
Abstract. School shootings are not only direct violence, but also a form of symbolic violence; their intention is to send a message to a broad audience. Victims of bullying suffered from what we call chronic stress and a feeling of absolute helplessness and depression. Without intervention, they developed a sense that no one is going to help them manage this, and when you are in that position you have few options like redraw completely, commit suicide or try to kill somebody who’s been bothering them. The chronic stress became so high and so internalized they possibly absolutely see no way out. Most mass shooters are male teens that are emotionally unstable and want to exact revenge on society for some harm that they have suffered (real or imaginary).
Introduction. Adolescents who committed school shootings mostly are severely bullied in school and felt very alienated and very angry and they had a hit a list of the kids who had bullied them. I personally do not think it is an excuse for victims of bullying to commit such acts of violence but it makes me wonder more about the motives of these shooters. People who engage in these attacks took serious actions as selecting a particular weapon or practicing with a weapon. They thought that they are desperate and they accept the idea that violence might be an accept-full way to solve their problem. Nursing in school needs to be part of the team to recognize the bullied teen and intervene before there are serious life-threatening consequences.
The perpetrators in these school violence incidents targeted other students who have called them names or rejected them, or they have retaliated for the perceived injustices related to discipline or academic assessments done to them. ‘‘bullying’’ is one of the most significant concerns among children today, and ultimately a predictor in school shootings. By my count, they have been 166 shootings in schools in the last three decades these cases are persistently viewed as Aberrations Each new incident provokes Surprise and shock. These mass shootings took place in predominately white, middle-class or upper-class Suburbans what small towns. Expects to tend to Fix blame on factors external to the school, Severe mental illness, access to guns, or media violence, especially video games. While these issues shortly play a role in a high incidence of such events, we need to ask you a more fundamental question. What occurs in school themselves, the sites, after all of the shootings that cause so many students to become unhappy, anxious, depressed, motivated by rage?
Methods. Some of the shooters Who survived Who didn’t kill themselves or get killed in the Mayhem express these feelings explicitly. They are proud of themselves after the shootings. Most schools shootings perpetrators are male Most of those who committed the massacres, struggle for Rick no nation and status among their peers. The majority of them languished at the bottom of the social hierarchy. They tended not to be athletic, they we also described in the media are skinny, scrawny, Short, lanky. They were diseased for looking feminine or gay. They didn’t need to be academically oriented. Do you where do you only successful with girls. Many of them were also significantly less wealthy than popular teens and their schools. As a result of these perceived failures, They were mercilessly teased and abused.
Leaving as they do within such a strict punitive social hierarchy, Boys are told in one way or another to prove their manhood And in some cases, to prove that they exist at all. Mini boys think that the most go to great lengths to differentiate themselves from perceived as gay, Feminine, poor, intellectual, or weak. So they harass, bully, demean, Humiliate, and I generally try to crush this social value of anyone who doesn’t fit him. All in an effort to secure their own social standing by calling in another student gay. A boy demonstrates to others that he is successfully heterosexual, While a boy who beats up another student proves how powerful he is Compared with the injured party.
These boys repeatedly choose to prove their masculinity by overwhelming violence. Many of them targeted more popular kids who have harassed them In the girls who had rejected them. They believe their violent response, a powerful demonstration of masculine prowess, Would win them the recognition they desperately craved. Whether they were dead or alive, free or behind bars, one after another, the perpetrators spoke about their yearning for notoriety. They could no longer imagine Achieving recognition is their present reality, so they dreamed of receiving it in some form of afterlife obtained through silence and infamy. These youth turned suit any means necessary to get that recognition.
Bullying is detrimental to the mind of the individual being bullied it creates that fear in the minds which paralyzes them. Fear is the most settled and destructive of all human diseases. Fear kills dreams, fear kills hope; fear puts people in the hospital. Fear can hold you back from doing something that you know within yourself that you capable of doing but it will paralyze you and it seems like you are put in a hypnotic spell. Fear is false evidence appearing real. That is an illusion we create in our minds, it is a state of mind that can be changed. It makes you think this is all we can do, this is all we deserve. Let’s look at how we can begin to take some steps to restructure that fear to begin to expand our vision of ourselves to begin To increase our self-esteem.
Self-esteem is confidence and satisfaction from oneself. Look at your life right now, what have you done up to this point in time in your life? Whatever you have produced is game out of you as the result of the kind of person you have become, Is the result of your choices, is a result of your consciousness. Now you have to ask yourself are you satisfied with what you have produced? Is this what you want? Would you like things to be better than this? Do you believe that you deserve better than this? Are you content this is it and you don’t have to do anything else, That you already resign yourself in. Are you allowing yourself to get off the hook like that? Or do you Believe somewhere in the back of your mind, or in your heart that there other great work for you to do, That there is something else that life has for you and that’s why you here? How do we handle this fear factor caused by bullying?
How do we increase our self-esteem? We had to begin to fortify ourselves. How do we do that? I believe that we have to begin to consciously Monitor inner conversation and talking to ourselves, Start building ourselves up. Sometimes the only good things you will hear about yourself are the things you say to yourself. I’m saying learn to be your own booster, start encouraging yourself, Start saying I can do this. Stop beating yourself up It’s a natural inclination to put ourselves down, We are born negative I think. And a negative consciousness, because we live a negative word, around negative people and bullying factors which makes us think we don’t deserve a better life or it can’t happen for you.
Example #8 – Bullying on Teenage Years
The Effects of Bullying on Adolescence. “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” The conflict between individuals has existed for an extremely long time now, but the term “bully” only has been around since 1693. In fact, bullying didn’t become a major problem until the 1970s. Up until that time, many individuals in society viewed bullying as a childhood rite of passage. What is bullying? Bullying is “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing act that habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.”(Dictionary, Collins English Dictionary) While bullying exists in many countries, the United States has the worst effect as a result of it not being made illegal in many states; although, almost every state requires anti-bullying policies in schools. The mentioned behavior is repeated or has the potential to be repeated, and lead to serious lasting problems. What are the effects of bullying on adolescence?
“The bully has more power than the victim. This could be through larger size, greater strength, superior confidence, or force of numbers (i.e., many kids ganging up on a victim).”(Langman, 12) In 1973, Dan Olweus published Aggression in the Schools: Bullies and Whipping Boys. His point of view being that bullying was an important situation in schools, paved the way for many new anti-bullying policies to come. Bullying will ultimately destroy a child’s life as a result of physiological effects, decreases in academic achievement, and higher suicidal rates. Both, children bullying others and the children being bullied seem to destroy a child’s life due to the increased impact on physiological effects. A previous study in JAMA Psychiatric chose to acknowledge the long-term aftermath for children by following up with its cohort as they grew into adulthood, which can give a better sense of information.
Researchers collected data from over 1,400 children in North Carolina, ages 9, 11, and 13, and once again at an older age; asking about their experiences being bullied, bullying, or partaking in both roles. Five percent were exclusively bullies, twenty-one percent were entirely victims, and four and a half percent straddled the fence of playing both roles. Receiving the second amount of information between the ages of 19 and 26, determined whether they suffered mental health disorders including, depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, substance dependence, and antisocial personality disorder. Adolescence who were victims had a greater chance of developing depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, generalized anxiety, panic disorder, and agoraphobia as adults. Although not surprisingly, children experiencing both roles encountered all types of depressive and anxiety disorders, and more severely from suicidal thoughts, depression, generalized anxiety, and panic disorder.
The previously mentioned research provides strong evidence that encountering bullying as a victim or a perpetrator is a largely important risk factor for serious emotional issues separate from preexisting problems. William E. Copeland, a professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Duke University says: “This psychological damage doesn’t just go away because a person grew up and is no longer bullied. This is something that stays with them.”(Walton, Forbes). A new collection of data portrays that serious illness, struggling to keep a regular job, and poor social relationships are all just some of the negative outcomes in adulthood due to exposure to bullying as a child. The following study published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, highlights the risk of issues related to health, poverty, and social relationships are increased by exposure to bullying.
The following study assessed almost 1,500 individuals four to six times between the age of nine and sixteen and adult outcomes between twenty-four and twenty-six years old. A ‘bully-victim’ was at higher risk for health problems such as over six times more likely to be diagnosed with major illnesses, smoke addictively, or develop a psychiatric disorder compared to those individuals not involved. The study also reveals that this group of individuals, bully-victims, are most vulnerable causing them to turn to bully as a resolution due to the lack of emotional regulation or support needed to cope with the hardship.
Bullies seem to be children with the predominant tendency of anti-social ness, who know exactly how to get under someone else’s skin. Psychological scientist, Dieter Wolke of the University of Warwick explains: “It is important to find ways of removing the need of these children to bully others and, in doing so, protect the many children suffering at the hand of bullies – they are the ones who are hindered later in life.”(CBS NEWS, Association for Psychological Science) In addition, bullies and bully-victims showed indications of having trouble forming and holding onto social relationships, especially when maintaining long-term friendships or relationships with parents in adulthood. Joined with the previous study, “About 20 percent of U.S. students in grades 9 through 12 were bullied at some point in 2011, according to a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey.”(Castillo, CBS NEWS) Psychologist Guy Winch explained to TIME that emotional trauma can be as harmful as someone dealing with physical injuries.
One specific study using brain portrait scans displays that people who are rejected activate the same areas of the brain as those who are experiencing physical pain. Winch’s selection, Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating, Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries explains “The intensity of the emotional pain bullying elicits, and the fact that other people underestimate how much hurt they feel makes being bullied an incredibly traumatic experience that can leave significant emotional scars,”(Castillo, CBS NEWS). Areas to focus on to prevent further damage should include increasing their self-esteem, managing their anger and aggression, excelling with the healing process of emotional pain, and aiding them through understanding they belong and are wanted. “Some people are more resilient and tend to do some of these healing and curative things naturally. They might seek out their close friends and get emotional support from them, and by doing so remind themselves that they’re accepted and appreciated.”(Castillo, CBS NEWS)
Not only are children effected by bullying with physiological results, but also a decrease in academics in the school setting. Students who encounter bullying regularly do extensively worse in school. UCLA psychologists have reported data in an issue of the Journal of Early Adolescence, which is responsible for academic performance and social relationships. The following study was constructed with 2,300 students and their teachers in eleven Los Angeles public middle schools. Researchers asked students to report whether or not they are bullied on a four-point scale and lists students who encountered bullying more often being physically, verbally, and the subject of nasty rumors. With the results collected, a high level of bullying was linked with lower grades in all years of middle school. Students who were shown to be the most bullied performed drastically worse academically than their peers. Reporting the information collected on grade point averages of all three years, one point higher on the four-point bullying scale resulted in a one and a half-point drop in GPA for one academic subject like Math or English.
In addition to the previous study, teachers provided data on how engaged students were including, participating in class discussion and activities, showing interest in the instructed material and completing assignments like classwork, homework and projects. Students who are repeatedly bullied tend to not participate in class discussions; sometimes leading to them being labeled as low achievers because of their shyness to speak up in class due to fear of being bullied. Many teachers misinterpret this silence as students not being motivated to engage themselves in learning. “Instruction cannot be effective unless the students are ready to learn, and that includes not being fearful of raising your hand in class and speaking up,” (Wolpert, UCLA Newsroom) Juvonen explains, who has studied bullying for about a decade.
In almost 300 high schools in Virginia, research was conducted in addition to investigate student behavior, and proved that high schools with escaladed bullying had lower passing rates on Virginia’s standardized tests. High schools with higher levels of reported bullying received lower passing rates by an average of three to six percent across tests when being compared with fewer reported bullying schools. The previously mentioned gap was shown on state exams like Standards of Learning tests in algebra, world history and earth science. “The likely explanation is that students are less engaged in school, and perhaps more are distracted. Teachers are probably burdened with more discipline problems, and there is just less goodwill and motivation in a school where students experience a lot of bullying and teasing.”(George, the Washington Post) Also, schools that used the ‘authoritative’ model linked to parenting which includes, firm and demanding in discipline but rather comforting and supportive towards students; had the least amount of bullying and teacher victimization.
“But the link between bullying and achievement can work both ways. The students who are doing poorly are at higher risk of getting bullied, and any student who gets bullied may become a low achiever. Whether bullying happens on school grounds or after school hours on the Internet, it can paralyze students from concentrating on academics.”(Wolpert, UCLA Newsroom). Also, bullying can destroy an adolescent’s life due to an increase in suicides. “Nationally, suicide is the third leading cause of death among 12- to 19-year-old youths and fourth in New York State.”(LeVasseur, Kelvin, and Grosskopf, American Journal of Public Health) Bullying is an important risk factor for suicide thoughts of other suicide risk factors. Youths who report involvement in bullying are more likely than those not involved to report strongly considering or attempting suicide. A survey of the literature on bullying and suicide suggested that there are different effects between bullying and suicide among different minority groups and even sexual preferences.
April 6, 2009, Sirdeaner Walker found her son Carl, only eleven years old dead. By using an extension cord, Carl Joseph Walker hung himself in the family’s home. In a note to his mother, he apologized for taking his own life and passed on Pokémon cards to his younger brother. But, in the months and days before Carl’s death, he encountered emotional and physical abuse by his fellow classmates. At school, Carl’s peers threatened him time and time again to hurt and shun him, calling him gay. The only reason these youth were mistreating Carl was that he dressed and talked differently than other boys, which usually is the case. Carl became a part of the long and still-growing list of adolescents whose lives ended under the circumstances of “bullycide”. Even though many acts result in bullycide, many cases, including ones like Carl’s, result from bias-motivated violence targeting individuals who identify themselves or are portrayed as queer. These bullycide cases are closely linked back to the other various forms of bias-motivated violence that result in the deaths of many youths every day.
“GenderPAC (2007) reports that the majority of the cases of gender-motivated violence resulting in death are against gender-nonconforming queer people of color.”(Pritchard, 321) Furthermore, some individuals in society believe that bullying has no effects or only positive ones on adolescents. For generations, youth made their way through the trials and obstacles of the ‘crosses we have to bear’ without a lot of psychological effects. As days go by, and the taunting and teasing that comes along with it, made kids stronger, more stable, and well adjusted. Presently, we live in a therapeutic world where everything has to be safe and surely protected. So, even though it seems to be the correct ideal that living without having to encounter bullying, you will turn out missing a part of the maturation process. “Those who fight against bullying hold an invalid worldview of man, believing he is, by his nature, good and perfectible.” (Kalahar, Freedom Choice Cost)
Of course, it would the perfect idea if everyone would love his fellow man, but in the reality of the world, human nature has its harsh, brutal side. All hope in the world for a man to change his universal nature is a waste of time. When it comes down to our children’s safety and security, we have laws in place against assault and battery. But, protecting and hiding our youth from the reality of the human condition does not prepare them for life itself and its many issues. “Bullying is seen as abusive and gratuitous when resources are abundant and warfare unnecessary, but aggressive human behavior always lies just under the surface.”(Kalahar, Freedom Choice Cost) Some research may conclude and display that hyper-aggressive males would not exist if they did not come in contact with some evolutionary advantage on their species. Natural instincts and economic realities tie to self-reliance may lead us to act in a certain way.
In The Moral Animal, Robert Wright explains, “Throw a bunch of hens together, and, after a time of turmoil, including much combat, things will settle down.”(Freedom Choice Cost) The pecking order provides a hierarchy that restrains members of a group from continuously competing for power and control, keeping the strongest members from wasting energy, and weaker from continually being torn apart emotionally. In the article, Words that Wound, the author states that “Theories vary on why children become bullies, but most agree that bullies gain power and enjoy the control they have over others.”(Freedom Choice Cost)
Bullying is mostly about having power and control over your peers, which can eventually affect the way a bully thinks of himself. Scientists also believe that the personal benefits of a bully include higher self-esteem, greater access to resources, and avoidance of the aggressive actions of peers. “The subject of bullying within a culture is a dynamic question that not be taken lightly.”(Kalahar, Freedom Choice Cost) Research and child safety concerns must be priority one, but we cannot jump to assumptions regarding bullying simply because it feels or sounds bad. In conclusion, bullying will ultimately destroy a child’s life as a result of physiological effects, decreases in academic achievement, and higher suicide rates. Hopefully one day this will no longer be an issue in America.
Example #9 – How should Schools Stop Bullying
From the two reports, we know that every student can become a bully or bully of school bullying. The correct understanding of bullying on campus is the basic premise for the school to carry out prevention and treatment work, and it needs to be recognized by all faculty and staff. The root of preventive work is to build a team of trusted friends and teachers, and a group and school that can study and live with peace of mind. There is a need to strengthen the awareness and ability of teachers. Teachers should train students to develop relevant skills related to ‘basic ability’ and ‘expertise’. First, let the children stay away from the basic abilities of bullying, mainly including understanding and communication ability of others, and judging the ability of others and the environment. Second, the study of the expertise of school bullying.
At the same time, the students are given a variety of decompression methods, such as sports, reading, confiding, etc., rather than conflict with others. Bullying damage often stems from ‘learning pressure’ and ‘interpersonal relationship pressure’. School education and teaching practices should be improved in order to prevent bullying. Schools should build a platform for everyone to express, attach importance to the interpersonal relationship building of classes, grades, and associations, create opportunities for everyone to be useful and successful and improve self-awareness. The important feature of school bullying is that it is difficult to find and difficult to judge, because bullying usually occurs at times and places that are difficult for adults to discover, and is often obscured by playfulness and other forms.
Teachers first need to have positive attitudes and discoveries and judge with other teachers. For school, the key to discovering bullying as soon as possible is to establish and improve relevant measures, such as regular investigations, consultations, and reports. For example, Japanese schools arrange regular questionnaires to allow students to choose their own situation. Through the survey, the school learned about bullying on campus and also investigated factors such as learning pressure, interpersonal relationship, and self-efficacy. Once the bullying facts are discovered and determined, teachers need to immediately stop it. If there is student counseling and reporting about bullying, teachers need to prioritize this work rather than other work. For those who are being bullied, the teacher must show the attitude of ’resolute protection’ and ’resolute support’.
It is necessary to tell the bullied students:’You are not wrong!’ Parents should also be used to protect students through home visits. After the school has confirmed the facts of bullying, it is necessary to combine psychologists and professionals with relevant experience to discuss solutions to prevent a recurrence. For bullies, first of all, let them know that bullying is an act of hurting others, promote self-reflection, and then punished them according to different situations. In addition, the problem of bullying on the Internet is becoming more and more prominent.
It is characterized by violent behavior, usually speech violence or exposure to information bullying. Therefore, schools need to guide students to regulate the use of the Internet. First of all, the school and the family work together to improve the quality of the students. Secondly, once bullying is discovered, it is necessary to stop and clear the information immediately. The problem of school bullying cannot be eliminated in a short time. Schools should promote students to build correct values and protect their growth.’ The school should be the sunniest and safest place.’ Our goal is to create a campus environment for children without fear.
Example #10 – Dealing with Bullying
What is bullying? In this research paper, we are going to discuss a very difficult topic which is bullying. We will go in-depth and we will analyze what causes bullying, what is bullying, types of bullying, and much more. Bullying has been a controversial topic for many years now and it seems it will never stop. There are different types of ways that people can get bullying that’s why it’s more complex to stop it now. Anyway, I hope you enjoy this research paper and you learn something new. Let’s begin What is bullying? “Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose”.
Types of bullying. There are three types of bullying and these are the types:
- Verbal bullying is saying or writing means things.
- Verbal bullying includes: Teasing Name-calling Inappropriate sexual comments Taunting Threatening to cause harm
Social bullying sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes: Leaving someone out on purpose Telling other children not to be friends with someone Spreading rumors about someone Embarrassing someone in public. Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes: Hitting/kicking/pinching Spitting Tripping/pushing Taking or breaking someone’s things Making mean or rude hand gestures What are the causes of bullying? There are eight causes that cause bullying and we probably don’t know about these are causes: Feeling Powerless in Their Own Lives Bullying a way people claim a sort of power in their lives by victimizing another. That person might have old shoes, be too short, too smart, too dumb, too feminine. The reason doesn’t really matter. Someone Else is Bullying Them
In many cases, bullying begets bullying. A person may feel bullied by their parents, their boss, or an older sibling. Getting bullied by any of these people who are in an assumed position of authority may tempt some to claim authority for themselves through bullying. When bullying slips through the net and isn’t sorted out we allow another generation of bullies to be created. Research shows that those who have experienced bullying are twice as likely to go on to bully others.. Jealousy or Frustration. When a person picks on someone for always being the first to raise their hand in class, or getting the best grade on tests and ruining the curve, or even picking up many of the promotions at work, the bully is probably jealous or frustrated with the person they are bullying.
Lack of Understanding or Empathy. In some cases, a person may bully because there is an aspect of a person’s personality that they don’t understand or don’t agree with. They may also have a prejudice against a person’s race, religion, or sexual orientation, and in many instances, they may even think that targeting a person whom they see as exuding wrong behavior is a good thing. This lack of empathy may be learned at home, if the bully’s parent’s voice racist attitudes, for example, the bully could pick up this behavior. Also, some people have psychological issues that reduce their ability to empathize with others. Looking for Attention. Some bullies would never think of themselves as bullies. They think that all they are doing is teasing a bit, and may even be trying to communicate or even befriend the person they are bullying. These social issues lead them to have trouble communicating in a healthy way and instead turn to insults or even physical violence as a way of communicating.
Family Influences. The family situation of bullies can often be a contributory factor. Lack of emotional support, authoritarian parenting, divorces, domestic violence, and poor parental communication are all potential factors in the lives of bullies. According to Dr. Nerissa Bauer, an expert on the topic: Behavior Gets Rewarded Most people don’t do this intentionally. However, the perpetrator is inadvertently rewarded anytime victims give up their lunch money or belongings. They also get rewarded by gaining popularity, attention, or power. These unintentional rewards reinforce bullying behavior and encourage the perpetrator to keep pushing others around.
Inability to Regulate Emotions. When people get frustrated and angry, they can usually stop themselves from doing things that will hurt others. When kids don’t have the ability to regulate their emotions, small annoyances can provoke them and cause them to severely overreact. For example, a child may be innocently walking down the hall and accidentally bump into a bully. Even though the child apologizes, the bully may lose his temper and slam the victim into the wall.
A brief history of bullying. Bullies have always been a part of any group development, from the earliest civilizations, and in religions, militaries, schools, neighborhood cliques, teams, families, and companies. The workplace bullying phenomenon, as we know it today, first entered the public consciousness on the heels of the workplace sexual harassment issue in the early 1980s. During that decade, Swedish psychologist Heinz Leymann was among the first to conceptualize and analyze the act of workplace bullying. In the early 1990s, British journalist Andrea Adams popularized the term “workplace bullying” through a series of BBC radio documentaries. In the United States, bullying first became a major issue in the public sector, with some schools and government agencies taking an avid interest in safeguarding against it. Later, this interest spilled over into private sector workplaces.
During the early to mid-1990s, more American researchers began studying the problem of psychologically abusive behaviors at work and the harm they create. Another driver of interest in the private sector was the growing concern about the costs of workplace bullying to a company’s bottom line. Today, workplace bullying incidents are four times more common in all U.S. organizations than sexual harassment episodes, and the related costs to businesses are also four times higher. In behavioral studies, bullying is now often closely linked to suicide and violence. The seriousness of the problem warrants that employers implement a sensible duty of care program in response.
How to stop bullying at school
- You can be someone who stops bullying before it even starts. How cool is that! Here are some ways to beat bullying at your school.
- Stand up for people who are bullied Bullies often want an audience and approval. Let bullies know that you do not think being mean is cool.
- Take an anti-bullying pledge. Print out our pledge to stand up against bullying. Share it with your friends, and let people know what you believe.
- Take action. See if you can start an anti-bullying club or prevention program at your school.
- Talk to other kids. Try to learn more about where bullying happens at your school. Talk about what might help. See if you and some friends can go together to talk to an adult at school.
- Talk to your teachers or principal. Let adults at school know that you care about this topic. Ask the school to host an assembly on bullying. Ask for an anonymous survey to learn how many kids are being bullied.
- Talk to your parents or guardians. Your parents or guardians can ask your school to focus more on bullying. We have information for adults on the bullying page in our section for parents and caregivers.
- Speak (and write) up! Write a blog, school newspaper article, or tweets to tackle bullying.
- Get creative. How about starting a poster-making or rap-writing contest? Check out more cool ideas, plus
Conclusion. In conclusion, we can fully understand what to do when we get bullied and that we should never keep it to ourselves. The easiest way to stop bullying is to talk to the principal of the school or your parents. The best thing to do be true to yourself.
Example #11 – interesting ideas
Is it worse than junior high, and how bad is it, how many (%) of people are bullied, I have not been bullied yet, I’m in junior high, but worried about bullying in high school?
Answer. It depends on the school. I found in both the Jr. High and High school that I attended that there wasn’t much difference, since the bullying was severe in both schools, even though I attended two separate schools. I was bullied because I had my own challenges, however, I was not in “Special Education” or anything like that. I was in all academic courses, and am even going to University now and plan on majoring in Sociology. Also, another reason that I was bullied badly in high school even though I moved from the area that had the Jr. High that I attended was that a bully from my Jr. High moved and started attending the same high school that I attended, and he went and told people the name that I was called in Jr. High and got people to call me that name in the new school that I attended, and despite the fact that people are supposed to be mature in High school and that bullying should not be very active/almost non-existent, it still seemed to exist very much in the high school that I attended.
I was not the only person that was bullied. I knew a couple of friends that were bullied as well, although they were not bullied as badly as I was, since they did not have people try to kill them(I had someone actually grab my coat and light it on fire, thank god I took it off quickly and throw it to the ground), severely beat them up(I was once pushed to the ground and had this girl kick me in the face and break my glasses- and this was a girl I never really spoke to, also, just to clarify something, I was not the type to start fights or bully people, I only spoke to the people I truly knew and trusted, and I did not say something mean about something about someone behind their back, the most I would do is tell my friends what someone did to me.
I know that this sounds like I am making myself seem like the victim but I’m not, I’m just giving the facts), or have a fake love letter written to them(the latter wasn’t really a love letter at all-it made fun of me and called me down to dirt; for example, it said “I love your ugly curly hair”; there was worse said in the letter beside that, but that’s just an example. Also, the day I received the letter, I pretended it was a nice letter since I had a huge assignment to do and never had the time to go to the school administration to deal with it). Another thing, the school administration at both the Jr. High and High school did not do much about the bullying. For example, I was shoved down the stairs and broke my foot.
The school administration would not do anything to the person who shoved me down the stairs; they would not even give them detention, even though I broke my foot and had to have a cast put on. The reason that I know that I was shoved on purpose and it was not an accident was because the person who did it said “haha the freak fell” when he pushed me and I fell down the stairs. Like I said before, it depends on the school you attend, and the people that are there. You might be lucky and attend a school that does not have much bullying or the people that bully will leave you alone. If there is bullying in your school, hopefully, the administration at your school will not be like the administration at the schools I attended; hopefully they will actually do something about any bullying incident when it happens.
Are there really bullies in middle school I’m going to Ernest just next year?
Answer. If there were bullies in your elementary school I am sad to report that they will be in your middle school next year. There is nothing magical that happens to create them as they enter 6th grade. I am a middle school counselor and can tell you, with complete confidence, that most incoming students worry more about bullies than necessary. Every year I meet with students about to come to my school and they tell me horrible stories about swirlies and kids trapped in lockers. Most of these, at the three schools where I have worked, have been urban legends. I even went so far as to have the smallest kid on a tour TRY and get in a locker–she could not.
Does this mean that there will not be mean kids? Sorry, nope. But your best defense is to learn to deal with them because they will be around for the rest of your life (there are adult bullies too). YOU have a lot of power to disarm bullies (not physically) and even to help them to be better people. Talk to your parents, your school counselor, a trusted teacher, and/or read a book–there are lots on the topic. The most important thing that YOU can do is have 0 tolerance for bullies -even (especially?) if you are not the victim. Students who are bullied need people their own age to stand up to bullies -there is strength in numbers!
Share examples and what grades they happened. Growing up I never really saw it or experienced it besides elementary school.
Answer. In high school back in 1975. This asshole use to try and knock me around quite a bit. He was 6’2ft and weighed about 185 pounds and was totally ripped, while on the other hand I’m 5’10 ft and only weighed about 135 pounds back then. He was a Jock, while I was a shop prodigy and a pretty good one at that. I love to open * up, tinker with it, and put it back together. Later on, a got a summer job as a mechanic’s assistance. And for the last 20 years, I’ve worked as an electrician. Love it!
Anyway back to the bully, I always stood up to him and his * buddies and got into fights constantly. Normally it’d be me vs him and another guy. And as a result, I normally got my * kicked! Now for a skinny guy I had, and still do have, naturally strong legs and arms. After being in high school for about a year, I began to work out, lifting weights. I eventually was able to bench press about 140 pounds with my arms and I was able to bench press up to 400 pounds with my legs. TRUE STORY! So anyway, one day me and my girlfriend, (who was a busty blue-eyed blonde), were in the hallway talking, when all of a sudden he came up and started hitting on her, right in front of me. The *had balls, I’ll give him that.
She was very repulsed by his garbage! I told him to * off and leave her alone before he got hurt. Messing with my girl was not something I was gonna even begin to put up with! We almost went at it right there but my girlfriend put a stop to it. He said we’d finish it later. The next day I was walking down the hallway to the boy’s room, when I saw him again hitting on her, right in front of everyone. She shoved him, to which he slapped her, knocking her to the ground. I charged him, tackled him, and started beating into the * with everything I had. I was probably only on him for maybe 30 seconds, but by the time my buddies were able to pull me off him, he was missing 4 of his front teeth and his nose was broken. He got up, with a terrified look in his eyes. After that, he never messed with me or my girlfriend again.
I’m doing an essay on teachers and bullying, like how they can help prevent it. And it’s not just teachers, but like all the administrators, how administrators could help more with bullying in middle/high school. Can you guys think of some good ways that teachers can better help with bullying? Or comment on some good links to websites about the subject?
Answer. The idea that teaching students about bullying and raising awareness about these issues isn’t going to help anything. I’m also gonna stop calling it bullying because, in my personal experience, that word has become a joke among students, nobody takes it seriously, at least not where I go to school. we’re old enough to call it what it is which is being immature, cruel, frankly just being a dick or acting like one. Anyway, I don’t think that “raising awareness” about the bull that goes on in schools is going to make any difference because the thing is people already know that these things happen. it has to do with the fact that people like to believe that things are black and white, good and evil, simple and straightforward. there are the “bullies” who do cruel things like graffiti slurs on gay kids’ houses and tell quiet kids to kill themselves when the fact is it’s not always that simple.
Sure, there are people who do those things, and, at least in the area I go to school in, we’re taught that those things are cruel, and the people who do things like that probably know that they’re being cruel, and don’t give a damn, those kinds of people aren’t the people whose behavior can be changed. From what i’ve seen, the way “stop bullying” “raise awareness about bullying” is treated is all wrong. The way the schools treat it is as though the “bullies” are outsiders, specific people who do cruel things and should you see someone behaving cruelly, you should report their behavior so that they can be stopped by the proper authorities. that’s the message received by the students anyway, at least as far as I can tell. and that message isn’t doing any good because it isn’t black and white like that and by teaching it this way they’re drawing attention away from their own behaviors, nobody has any idea of the consequences of their own actions.
Everybody is being lead to believe that “bullies” are obvious douchbags that must be stopped and nobody is being taught to monitor their own behavior because everybody thinks that because they’re nice to their friends and polite to strangers, respect their teachers, get decent grades, keep their promises and are generally a good person most of the time they can’t possibly be the bullies. they think if they call a girl a slut when she walks past, it’s okay because it was a joke and most of the time they’re alright (and they also think she kind of deserved it). but most of the time “bullied” students aren’t getting spray paint on their lockers, its people calling out at them when they walk by, people refusing to sit with them for fear of being judged, hearing people whisper as they walk down the hall, the fact that nobody would stick up for them when a cruel person told them cruel thing, that makes them feel so isolated and alone
This is just my opinion but from what I’ve seen that basically everybody in a high school is okay most of the time, and then sometimes they’re not, because people are human, and people are being lead to believe that people who are cruel are cruel people and monitoring their own behavior isn’t an issue that they need to take seriously. that it’s okay to be cruel if you’re not a cruel person if you’re just one in a crowd if you ask me “bullying” is never going to be eliminated from schools because the fact is young people are still young and still learning and have a tendency to be immature about a lot of things, more often than not but if teachers and administrators want to improve the situation they can start by letting students know that it’s more important they watch what they say about others, and that being cruel in a crowd is still cruelty. it won’t stop much but it might help basically I think less telling people “if you see someone being a dick then tell a teacher” and more telling people “please don’t be a dick” it’s just that I’m pretty sure everybody knows to call cops if they see someone spray-painting slurs.