Not that long ago, marriage was prevalent, but today marriage rates are decreasing, and fewer people are getting married each year today than 30 years ago. There are many reasons for this, such as people not wanting to commit, the expense of marriage, or not seeing the point in marriage. Still, there are many reasons why people continue to get married and why marriage isn’t completely dying out, such as religious traditions. But marriage is becoming so uncommon; is it no longer important?
The first reason why marriage is no longer important is that people cohabit instead. Some people might not marry and cohabit instead because they are not ready to commit to their partner and might cohabit first instead and ‘trying before buying,’ with cohabiting together as a trial run, to experience what it would be like to live with that person. People usually cohabit before marriage, as they are not ready to make such a huge commitment to someone, and if they don’t get on well, they can easily split up.
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In contrast, if they were married and wanted to split up, they would have to get a divorce, which, although is a lot easier than it used to be, is still a quite complicated process, sometimes having to half things like money and decide who gets the right to belongings.
For example, a man with a fortune of 10 million pounds might get married to someone and, after a while, decides to get a divorce. As they are married, the man might end up having to give a few million pounds in a divorce settlement to his ‘wife,’ so many people cohabit as it is quite easy to separate.
One of the reasons why marriage is no longer important, because of the expense of marriage, as marriages can cost up to thousands of pounds. Many people don’t see the point in spending thousands of pounds on getting married, and due to the current recession, many people are struggling financially.
They cannot afford it, so they decide to ‘cohabit’ together. Many university students might cohabit together, as they can’t afford a wedding, and some people actually end up continuing to cohabit each other for the rest of their life without getting married, even they do eventually get enough money. Still, however, some do get married after getting the expenses for a wedding.
Marriage is also no longer important because some don’t see the point in it and don’t see it any different than a relationship, with marriage just being “a piece of paper.” As a result, lots of people don’t bother getting married. They believe you can still be in a strong relationship with someone and love them without getting married. Having a big wedding ceremony and signing a paper won’t make two people love each other anymore.
For example, a woman might love her husband a lot and decide to get married after living together for three years. After they are legally married, they might not notice a difference in their relationship, except, of course, they share the right to their belongings. Still, apart from that, they are not any happier or love each other anymore.
Another reason is that people have tried marriage, and it has not worked for them. They might not remarry because of the fear of getting divorced again or because they can’t be bothered going through the complicated marriage process, or because they didn’t like being married. For example, a woman might have previously cohabited over a period of time and then got married. Her marriage might have been horrible, with lots of arguments and fights, with being married making her and her husband ‘spread further apart,’ hating the marriage so much that she got divorced.
Because of her previous marriage experience, she might simply decide not to marry because of the fear of going through a horrible marriage again and divorce. Some people might have divorced and not remarry because of all the hard work that has to be put into the wedding, getting a dress and all the other numerous preparations for a wedding so that they won’t get married again.
Marriage is no longer important because so many people are beginning to get divorced. Today divorce is a lot more socially acceptable, with lots of media influence and more benefits for single parents and the fact it is a lot easier. Many people don’t really see marriage as that important anymore.
Instead of living in an ‘empty shell marriage,’ which is when a couple remains legally married even though it is technically over, they get divorced in the eyes of the husband and wife, as we seem to have a lot more freedom now. However, marriage is still important to some people. One of the reasons it is still important is due to people’s religious views and cultural traditions. Many Indians and Pakistanis will marry as it is their tradition to get married at a young age.
They usually have low cohabitation rates as they see marriage as quite important within their culture and follow their traditions, sometimes having arranged marriages. Many Christians will also get married, maybe because they want to have children and only believe in having children within a marriage due to the Bible.
Some Christians believe getting married symbolizes your love for Jesus and God as marriage is what God teaches in the Bible. Because of ‘English traditions,’ some people continue to get married. Although it is dying out, it is still a tradition to get married due to things like governments encouraging divorce and giving things like tax allowance for married couples.
It’s also important because they believe a married relationship is the best environment to bring children up in. Many people will get married as they are less likely to separate, as it is not that easy to get divorced and get divorced; although it is easy nowadays, you have to go through quite a long, complicated process. So if a couple doesn’t get on, they would be more likely to try and work things out and get their marriage back on track, unlike if they were not married and could easily separate and ‘walk away’ from their relationship. Many people believe a married environment is the best for children, as their parents are less likely to split up, giving them a better childhood and avoiding physical and mental disruption.
Marriage is also important when having children because a married mother and father give children positive role models and allow parents to socialize children in the ‘correct’ way. Some people might say it means they have a positive female figure, helping in ‘gender socialization,’ showing how ‘the women’ in the family act, maybe cooking or cleaning, teaching children typical gender roles and maybe showing their father as the breadwinner of the family and with a male dominator, teaching children typical gender roles, with married parents playing a key part in the socialization process for children. Marriage is also important because many people believe that getting married is the only way you can truly show your love to your husband or wife. Some people might not see the point of making an effort for a wedding, but some think making a big effort shows that you love your partner.
Marriage can be seen as a symbol of two peoples’ love and ‘the piece of paper,’ and their marriage licence is more than a piece of paper; it ‘a piece of paper’ that shows to the whole world and symbolizes their love for each other and making the commitment of being married enables someone to ‘spend the rest of their life with the person they love’. Another reason why marriage is important is because of the security it offers. Being married allows a couple to have financial security, as when people get married, they will sign a legal document giving rights to each others ‘belongings’, so if their partner were to die, they would know that they would get a sum of their money and their belongings, so lose everything, as they have the legal rights.
Marriage is also important because of the financial support and also emotional support it offers. For example, if in a family, the wife might not work, maybe, because they cannot get a job and her husband might work. Because her husband earns money, as they are married and ‘share’ things, she can live off her husband’s money, and he will pay for necessities such as food and clothes and maybe even luxury items. Conjugal roles might also be present, with men sometimes wanting to get married to rely on someone to do housework. Marriage also offers emotional support, giving people someone to talk to in hard times and seek comfort, as people promised to ‘love and honour’ their husband or wife when they got married.
Marriage is no longer important because so many people are beginning to get divorced. Today divorce is a lot more socially acceptable, with lots of media influence and more benefits for single parents and the fact it is a lot easier. As a result, many people don’t really see marriage as that important anymore. Instead of living in an ‘empty shell marriage,’ which is when a couple remains legally married even though it is technically over, they get divorced in the eyes of the husband and wife, as we seem to have a lot more freedom now.
Overall, I think marriage is no longer important as marriage rates are continually decreasing, with increasing amounts of cohabitation, due to things like expenses of weddings and the commitment that has to be made. Many people simply don’t bother going to the effort of organizing a wedding, as they don’t see the point, unlike a few decades ago when it was the norm to get married. However, marriage is important to some people, as many people continue to get married due to their religion or cultural traditions and due to the current recession because of the financial support it offers. So although marriage is no longer as important as it used to be, I think getting married will never ‘die’ out.