There are many causes of divorce. A director of the Family studies centre, named Malcolm Wickes, stated that ‘The causes of divorce spring from fundamental social, economic and psychological developments occurring worldwide.’ Sometimes divorce cannot be prevented, and the irreconcilable differences cannot be overlooked. This is a problem for many religions and ethnic communities as several believe that divorce is always iniquitous. The law has a serious view on divorce, and so if the couple wishes to have a divorce, they must prove that their marriage is completely beyond any repair. With these grounds for divorce, they will then be given a decree nisi. The separation will take up to 6 months; although; the law is indifferent to where they may marry again, the state still views divorce as a serious affair they recognise the broken relationship.
In the Bible, there are numerous views on divorce. These are extremely varied, and the teachings of the church are equally divided. In the Old Testament, a man could divorce his wife simply if he found ‘no favour’ in her. In the New Testament, both proclamations contradict themselves: one is that ‘man must not separate …what God had joined together’ in Mark 10:9. For this particular reason, many traditional Christian churches refuse to remarry divorced people in a church, although they can marry in a registry office with the ‘blessing’ of the church. This is because divorce is seen as a misdemeanour in the eyes of God. However, in Matthew, another statement declares that ‘If anyone divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness….” Some believe these conflicting opinions about divorce, perhaps because Mark saw marital unfaithfulness as an obvious reason for divorce. He did not deem it worthy of mentioning.
The church of England does not completely agree with divorce but recognises that the differences in a relationship can sometimes not be reconciled, even if they have attended counselling. Therefore, divorce is the only option. The Roman Catholic Church, however, is stricter in its approach. Divorce is not even considered as marriage between two baptised people is a sacrament that should not be broken. However, a marriage where only one partner is baptised can be ‘dissolved’ but only under special circumstances; in other words, there is a just reason such as impotence. The Catholic Church believes that divorce cannot merely be a legal contract. The marriage was conjoined in the eyes of God. So if the couple wishes to remarry in a Catholic Church, the church much acknowledge that their marriage had been annulled; this is a statement that the marriage bond never existed due to an inability to carry out the duties of marriage, so that the couple may remarry in a Catholic Church.
Otherwise, if they decide to remarry in any other way, they would have committed adultery in the eyes of the Catholic Church and God. In addition, there is also the condemnation of adultery in the Bible expressed by the quote: “A man can hire a prostitute for the price of a loaf of bread, but adultery will cost him all he has.” Jesus agreed with this as he stated in Matthew 5:28 that “everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Therefore the breaking of a marriage bond is never right when adultery is concerned. Subsequently, there are more conflicts of opinion. For example, in Genesis 2:24, the Bible states, “[a husband] cleaved to his wife and become one flesh.” This demonstrates the belief that the marriage relationship should be eternal and the love should be immutable (as embodied by the ring in the marriage service.) Pope John Paul once said that marriage is an ‘unbreakable alliance’ and not just a ‘passing emotion’ but a ‘free decision to bind oneself completely in the good times and the bad to one’s partner.
It is a gift to oneself and the other.’ The duty of Paul was to reflect the Churches view, and he is explicitly saying that marriage is a sacrament, a declaration that cannot be undone. Reiterating this opinion is Harold Loukes, who said that marriage is not just a ‘pleasant arrangement…but a vocation into which we have been drawn by nature and god.’ Therefore, divorce would be seen as spiritually and religiously immoral. On the other hand, divorced Quakers are free to remarry, and the Quaker faith and practice declared in 1994 that the ‘value [of marriage] is increasingly recognised’ but ‘whilst believing that marriage is different and special, we recognise the value of other relationships and the single state.’ I believe that this is a more contemporary view on marriage, divorce and relationships, allowing autonomy where relationships are concerned
In the Christian faith, marriage is not only between man and women; it is also between Jesus and his followers. Therefore, divorce should not occur between the followers and Christ, let alone the couple. The quote expresses this in Revelation 19:7, ‘For the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.” This decries the intertwined relationship between them. This quote conveys that the church is not merely made up of a material building but the faith of its believers. Toady nuns are described as the brides of Christ and are given wedding rings after their final vows. These rings have the same significance as they do among the couple; both the nun and the couple should honour their promise to God and each other. The relationship between the couple should embody the relationship of Christ and his followers. Divorce may be seen as a declaration that the amalgamation of two people via marriage does not have any significance as it can be easily dismissed using a divorce.
In conclusion, I believe that divorce can be right in particular circumstances. However, different faiths and ethnic groups all have their own outlook on divorce. For example, divorce is regarded as a highly controversial subject within Christianity. However, the Quaker faith and The Church of England are perhaps more lenient in their allowance of divorce as they perhaps recognise the necessity of joining and separating a relationship. However, a Catholic Church regards divorce as a sacrament that is forbidden to be broken unless annulled. Therefore the couple is declaring full ignorance as to whether the marriage ever existed. Personally, I believe that love and marriage should be eternal (’till death do us part.’) By breaking this sacred bond; you are initially implying that you did not fully commit and that the symbolic acts performed in the marriage service had no physical and emotional effect on you. However, if there is a just reason for the marriage to be annulled and the irreconcilable difference cannot be overlooked, there is a just cause for divorce.